That creepy guy at the office is leaning up against your desk, YET AGAIN. It's a real drag having to suffer through unwanted moves – how do you shut it down without making a big deal out of it?
First of all, realize that sometimes a "big deal" NEEDS to be made, like in the case of unwanted sexual contact, sexual harassment, assault, etc. For more information on what that looks like and what to do if it happens, click here.
But when you feel that it's relatively harmless, like the clueless flirtation of a well-intentioned coworker that you're just not that into, or someone who's charming, polite, and confident, but just not your cup of tea, try out these strategies.
Minimize opportunities for flirtation!
Hang out in groups! Try not to spend alone time with this person. Don't hang out one on one, or outside of situations that you absolutely have to spend time together.
When you do see them, refrain from sharing too much personal information or being overly friendly or touchy. It's happened to me a million times; I thought I was just being friendly, but somehow a guy misconstrued my behavior as flirty. -__-