I feel as though today I should hit on something very important that everyone needs to understand and that's failure.
The definition of failure, according to Google, is the lack of success. Yes it is true that that is how most of us see failure. It's never fun dealing with it or receiving it. Whether it's on a test, a choice, and especially a dream. Failure, however, is seen most of the time as a negative situation. Our minds simply perceive it as "it didn't work so it never will." That is not the case however. I don't know how to make it anymore simple, but failure is not failing, it's simply learning. The second picture posted is one of the best ways to describe failure. Many situations have multiple options to be dealt with. Some will not work, and some will. I was reading a story of a young entrepreneur who was just starting his business (I can't remember what he was selling). He said that he had to change the business name 8 times. When asked "why?" He said "because my business failed 7 times already. All 7 times the format of my business was bad, the choices I made within the business were not correct, and how could I succeed with the same business name through all the failures? I'm simply had to change." Now be honest, how many of you would have kept going even after 3 times? One of my favorite quotes is "If your business succeeds at first, you're doing something wrong." What that means is whatever you take part in, and you have no issues, then you are not doing something right. Nothing challenging or difficult is easy. A problem needs to be present to actually set goals and overcome them. We all fear failure and therefore will not take risks (I will talk about risks in another post). Failure should not be seen as bad, for it should be seen as a lesson, a life lesson. To me, the true definition of failure is not falling down, but simply quitting what you started.
Let me tell you a story of when I over came failure. I was in my sophomore year of high school and I was on my power lifting (weight lifting) team. I was 16 at the time and I was very advanced in my fitness life. I was back squatting, at the time, 410lbs, benching 250lbs, and deadlifting 460lbs. A normal 16 year old should be able to do that, but since I put in hard work prior to that I was at that level. Anyways, it was our first powerlifting meet of the year. I was in the 181 (lbs) weight class, and so was my best friend. He was the same way, but I had a little more on him. How a power lifting meet works is we squat, bench, and deadlift, in that order. We get three lifts on each lift, increasing weight each lift. Our final weight is the amount of points we receive for that lift and the final three lifts of each lift added together in lbs is our total score. I wasn't sure how I matched up against the other kids because we were all 16 and weighed almost the same and were from around the state of Michigan. We ended our squats and I finished with 380lbs. I was sitting in first place. We finished bench and I was still at the top. We come to deadlift and I'm excited because I'm thinking "no problem." My open weight is 390lbs. I lift, drop, and they give me a green lights (2/3 green to have good lift). My second weight was 405lbs and that was nothing to me. I start to lift and it falls from my right hand. I was thinking "what the fuck?!" I've never dropped a deadlift before, especially at that weight. I had to go up to 415 if I wanted to win. I completely choked by psyching myself out about dropping it last time and dropped it again. I not only dropped from 1st, but I finished 3rd. I was such an awful feeling and I knew it was a hard lost. But I didn't let that stop me. I went back to the weight room and started lifting harder, working on my grip, hold the bar at the top for 10 seconds to strengthen myself. We had our Michigan High School State Power Lifting meet and I ended squat with 425lbs and bench 260lbs. My first two deadlifts were perfect but the guy in second was going for a 515lbs deadlift which meant I absolutely had to lift 465lbs to win. I'm my head I'm thinking of when I dropped it, used it as motivation, and lift the motherfucker like it was feather weight. I ended up winning states with 1140lbs. The guy in second had 1135lbs.
As you see, failure should not be taken at a negative aspect. You learn your lesson, get back up, and beat whatever the hell it is that knocked you down so hard that it'll become your bitch. So the next time you fail, pay attention to what you're learning.
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Have a good day guys,