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WordDoctor
3 years ago
Make Your Marriage Last, With Joy: Tips 21-25
It's time for more tips for making your marriage last, joyfully! Here are my next five tips for keeping your long-term relationship strong, fresh and healthy: 21. Laughter therapy Take time to laugh together - whether it's with a funny movie, at a comedy club, or just telling a joke. Laughter is healthy for your body, brings up your mood and energy and enhances those feel-good chemicals in your brain. And, it's useful to get in the habit of taking a lighter view on things - for next time you're facing each other in frustration. 22. Respect each other's space A lot of the advice for relationships is about ways to get closer, but actually a good way to stay together is to respect each other's space. Every person needs some time in their life to be an individual. It's not healthy to be completely subsumed into someone else, whether it's a partner or a child. Give your partner some space to do their own thing once in a while, to spend time alone occasionally and reconstitute their individual self. You will probably find that if you do some things separately once in a while, you'll have more to talk about. Also, people want to see you more if you're always right on top of them. It makes them appreciate your presence all the more. Finally, individual space gives the other person a chance to work out any frustrations or tiredness before spending time with you - and trust me, that's a good thing. 23. Learn something new about your partner.

WordDoctor
3 years ago
How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids
Being a parent is an incredible joy, but it can also make for some big-time frustration. It can be infuriating when our kids don't listen to us, willfully disobey, disrespect us, break our things, or do other things that make us very upset. My partner and I learned from when we were dating that we are not yellers. Both of us are pretty sensitive to tone of voice and pretty much never yell at each other. So it was clear after we got married that we weren't going to yell at our child, either. But I have to admit, there are times when it's hard to keep our voices down when we're upset. The reason we hold it in is because we (a) believe that yelling at him will not correct the problem, (b) we don't want him to think that it is okay to yell at others or at us, even when he's frustrated and (c) we believe there are other ways to communicate and vent our frustration while getting the results we want out of his behavior. So what can a parent do with their frustration and to discipline a child instead of yelling? Here are some tips to stop yelling at your kids: 1. Know when to walk away for a minute. Be aware when your level of frustration is getting unmanageable, then firmly but calmly tell your child to stay where they are and you will be back in a minute. Then leave the room.

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