We can get bogged down by the past. It is an easy reminder of all the mistakes, the hardship and the ridiculousness of our former selves. It is an important reminder of what not to do, but let's just say for the moment that we forget it entirely...
I've been thinking a lot about the risk involved with moving forward, and finally...on the train this morning while listening to The Libertines, I said to myself, "Fuck it."
Here are 5 reasons to never look back
Listen while you read:
"Don't Look Back Into The Sun" by The Libertines
1. It won't do you any good to dwell.
When we look back we're often looking back to the things we wish we could change. All of that is irrelevant once we move past it. It's taken me a lot of time to realize that I can't change the things I've done. I still don't fully understand that concept of finality, but one day I will, and that day will be beautiful.
2. The future is way more exciting than the past.
Yeah yeah, build on the past, make the future...whatever. The bottom line is that YOU CAN'T CHANGE WHAT'S ALREADY HAPPENED. Rather than focusing your energy on the past, and mulling over your mistakes, you can invest in the spectacular possibilities of the future. Who knows where you'll be in 10 years?
3. People who live in the past often get stuck.
Ever run into that one person from high school who only talks about high school? Yeah, that's not a good look. It's always easier said than done, but moving forward will help you realize what you want, what your goals are, and who you want to be. If you spend too much time looking back, you'll start to have regrets...and nobody wants those.
5. You're preventing yourself from new opportunities.
If you spend a lot of time thinking about the past, you're probably not invested in your future. Those who always look forward have bigger dreams, clearer goals and an understanding that life isn't guaranteed. They tend to live more in the moment. When all your time is rooted in something you can't change, it can be crippling. So continue on with the idea that the best is yet to come!
5. You're not that person anymore.
Every single day is a new opportunity to fix, create or destroy. Our old selves wouldn't believe what we've become, and that's a great thing. The kid you were in high school and the person you became in college wouldn't even be friends. It's okay to evolve. In fact it's wonderful to evolve.
Remember there is a huge difference between VALUING the past and DWELLING in it.
So evolve, and don't look back into the sun!