Dear Abby Spinoff: Dating A Guy With A Weird Fetish
*this card is a spinoff of the 'Dear Abby' advice column that was founded in 1956. I will be playing the role of Abby using an alias [see below] to answer the question being asked.*
I've known this guy for some time now and our friendship has grown immensely over the years. He made it known to me a couple months ago that he likes me. I find him attractive, but I don't know if I can like him the way that I want to because he has a weird foot fetish that somewhat creeps me out. I mean I see nothing wrong with a guy who enjoys feet, but when it seems like they're interested more in a person's foot than the actual person -- that's when I have to take a few steps back and reevaluate the situation.
Don't get me wrong, he's an amazing guy with a lot going for himself, but I'm not quite sure if he's actually interested in me or if he just wants to get close to my feet. We went on a date a few months ago and when he dropped me off at home, before saying goodnight he asked if he could see my feet. I wasn't sure how to react. I did get a kiss goodnight, but I'm pretty sure he wished he had been kissing my feet instead.
He wants to get together again soon, but I'm not sure if I want to go through with it. I don't want to lose a great opportunity over a silly fetish. Am I overthinking the situation too much? Should I look pass his weird foot obsession and see if we can make things work?
--- Completely Weirded Out
Dear Completely Weirded Out,
I definitely get where you're coming from in terms of not knowing whether to take things a step further or not with this guy, but on a positive note -- at least he was man enough to express his fetish upfront. A lot of guys will get to know you and then over time their creepy fetish will mysteriously come out of nowhere and you will have no choice, but to kick him to the curb.
It's up to you at the end of the day whether you look past his foot fetish and see him for the wonderful guy he is or miss out on a great opportunity because he happens to have a thing for feet. You should be honored that he finds your feet attractive, most men hate feet.