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Playing Hard To Get: The Game We've All Secretly Played Before

Let the games begin.

It's the game we've all dibbled and dabbled in a time or two before, but the end result doesn't always end in trophies and screaming fans. You've probably been on both the defense and offense team before and honestly, neither team is more enjoyable than the next.
Have you ever actually sat back and asked yourself, why in the world do people play hard to get? Some say that it's an essential part of dating, but at the end of the day, you either come out a champion or defeated. So, the real question is -- will you play for keeps for sit on the sidelines? The choice is yours.
Studies have shown that women should indeed play hard to get because it shows a man that you are worth it. The more you brush him off, the more he will want to chase you and pursue you. Sounds crazy right? Exactly. But I mean if it's been proven than it doesn't hurt to give it a try. If he shows that he's attracted to you and you're obviously attracted to him, but don't want to come off too strong, make him work for his prize.
Being able to call someone your Queen is a gift and it doesn't come easy, so a little work ain't never hurt nobody. Just make sure you don't go overboard. That so called "chase" can quickly turn into the guy being turned off and he will move on to something better [or lack there of].
On the other hand, when it comes to men playing hard to get -- let's be honest, as women we despise it. More times than often we want what we want when we want it. But don't let me speak too soon. A study done by Whitchurch, Wilson, and Gilbert (2011) on uncertainty and romantic attraction showed that women were more attracted to men who were uncertain about things, including their interest in a woman.
I can't begin to speak for every single woman, but I can speak for myself and as a woman I would definitely prefer a man who is confident in what he wants. I mean, who wouldn't want a confident man? If he's unsure about wanting you, just imagine what he will be unsure about later on down the road.
As a woman, you should never be overly available to a man -- ever. On the flip side, you should also at some point make it known what you want. Nobody likes to play games, especially when feelings are involved [click here for similar cards].
Playing hard to get may seem like a good idea in the beginning, but if you both end up playing hard to get -- at what point will you get each other? Think about it and never be a sore loser. You knew what you were getting yourself into.

If you're going to play, play to win and play for keeps.

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As far as I see it, a little bit of the game is okay. I like some chasing - it makes me feel more like I've 'earned' it, or something like that. I know there was a bit of chase between myself and my lady,.though not so much as to be disheartening. I think the chase keeps things a little bit exciting, keeps you on your toes, so to speak. but it is important to drop the games when you want to be serious with someone.
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@Anonym don't get me wrong, I'm def not an advocate for playing with emotions because trust me, I've had mine played with wayyyy too many times. but like @VinMcCarthy stated, I def don't see anything wrong with a little game. chase is cool, especially when you're trying to pursue someone. I think it shows [at least in my opinion] that the person is interested and they will jump through ropes to get you.
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@buddyesd I definitely appreciate your feedback! it's always good to have a little wisdom from the youthful folk in the mix [and yes, youthful is a positive term] haha :) but I love the fact that you still have a little game when it comes to your wife. I love a relationship like that. no matter how long you've been married, you still do little things to keep the marriage exciting.
2 years ago·Reply
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@marshalledgar being humble and confident are two MAJOR things a woman should definitely be and although, every woman wants and should be pursued by a man and not the only way around [hence, the woman proposing to men nowadays]...I do see it as okay when a woman makes it known that she is interested in a man and does little things to make that known. But as far as a woman pursuing a man, a MAJOR NO NO in my book. the man should always always always be the pursuer.
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@VinMcCarthy every relationship needs a sprinkle of excitement here and there. I definitely agree with you though when it's time to be serious, put all the fun and "games" to the side. there's a time and a place for everything. but I definitely don't see anything wrong with a little game in a relationship no matter how new or old it may be.
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