Let the games begin.
It's the game we've all dibbled and dabbled in a time or two before, but the end result doesn't always end in trophies and screaming fans. You've probably been on both the defense and offense team before and honestly, neither team is more enjoyable than the next.
Have you ever actually sat back and asked yourself, why in the world do people play hard to get? Some say that it's an essential part of dating, but at the end of the day, you either come out a champion or defeated. So, the real question is -- will you play for keeps for sit on the sidelines? The choice is yours.
Studies have shown that women should indeed play hard to get because it shows a man that you are worth it. The more you brush him off, the more he will want to chase you and pursue you. Sounds crazy right? Exactly. But I mean if it's been proven than it doesn't hurt to give it a try. If he shows that he's attracted to you and you're obviously attracted to him, but don't want to come off too strong, make him work for his prize.
Being able to call someone your Queen is a gift and it doesn't come easy, so a little work ain't never hurt nobody. Just make sure you don't go overboard. That so called "chase" can quickly turn into the guy being turned off and he will move on to something better [or lack there of].
On the other hand, when it comes to men playing hard to get -- let's be honest, as women we despise it. More times than often we want what we want when we want it. But don't let me speak too soon. A study done by Whitchurch, Wilson, and Gilbert (2011) on uncertainty and romantic attraction showed that women were more attracted to men who were uncertain about things, including their interest in a woman.
I can't begin to speak for every single woman, but I can speak for myself and as a woman I would definitely prefer a man who is confident in what he wants. I mean, who wouldn't want a confident man? If he's unsure about wanting you, just imagine what he will be unsure about later on down the road.
As a woman, you should never be overly available to a man -- ever. On the flip side, you should also at some point make it known what you want. Nobody likes to play games, especially when feelings are involved [click here for similar cards].
Playing hard to get may seem like a good idea in the beginning, but if you both end up playing hard to get -- at what point will you get each other? Think about it and never be a sore loser. You knew what you were getting yourself into.