jordanhamilton
3 years ago1,000+ Views

Let the games begin.

It's the game we've all dibbled and dabbled in a time or two before, but the end result doesn't always end in trophies and screaming fans. You've probably been on both the defense and offense team before and honestly, neither team is more enjoyable than the next.
Have you ever actually sat back and asked yourself, why in the world do people play hard to get? Some say that it's an essential part of dating, but at the end of the day, you either come out a champion or defeated. So, the real question is -- will you play for keeps for sit on the sidelines? The choice is yours.
Studies have shown that women should indeed play hard to get because it shows a man that you are worth it. The more you brush him off, the more he will want to chase you and pursue you. Sounds crazy right? Exactly. But I mean if it's been proven than it doesn't hurt to give it a try. If he shows that he's attracted to you and you're obviously attracted to him, but don't want to come off too strong, make him work for his prize.
Being able to call someone your Queen is a gift and it doesn't come easy, so a little work ain't never hurt nobody. Just make sure you don't go overboard. That so called "chase" can quickly turn into the guy being turned off and he will move on to something better [or lack there of].
On the other hand, when it comes to men playing hard to get -- let's be honest, as women we despise it. More times than often we want what we want when we want it. But don't let me speak too soon. A study done by Whitchurch, Wilson, and Gilbert (2011) on uncertainty and romantic attraction showed that women were more attracted to men who were uncertain about things, including their interest in a woman.
I can't begin to speak for every single woman, but I can speak for myself and as a woman I would definitely prefer a man who is confident in what he wants. I mean, who wouldn't want a confident man? If he's unsure about wanting you, just imagine what he will be unsure about later on down the road.
As a woman, you should never be overly available to a man -- ever. On the flip side, you should also at some point make it known what you want. Nobody likes to play games, especially when feelings are involved [click here for similar cards].
Playing hard to get may seem like a good idea in the beginning, but if you both end up playing hard to get -- at what point will you get each other? Think about it and never be a sore loser. You knew what you were getting yourself into.

If you're going to play, play to win and play for keeps.

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Ok, my two cents, playing games when emotions are involved is just plain wrong. You wouldn't like it done to you, so don't do it to anyone else, this includes playing hard to get. What every person should do in any relationship is to know their worth. Don't give up your power, don't accept second best. If you're not getting what you deserve, demand it, and if you still don't get it, find someone who will value you for you.
Ehhh. I don't know. I really hate these games. I think it's fine to play coy, maybe float between flirtatious and demure. (Or maybe that's just what I do naturally? Lol) But to say that women should play hard to get, and then demand men to give them what they want, when they want it? No. Way. Turning every encounter into a game is ridiculous. I guess, too, it comes down to what you want: a hook up or a relationship? A good man who wants something real is going to get tired of the game real fast. As for uncertainty, I wonder what they mean by the man's uncertain interest in a woman. It's been my general experience that a man's either very interested or very not. Who are these uncertain men? What are they so uncertain about? We need some men in here. I want answers and I want them now!! Lol. ;) Yeah, confidence can be sexy, but it's also a turn off sometimes. I'll take a shyer guy any day who can make me laugh, make my brain work, and treat me with respect. Just my two cents. :)
@VinMcCarthy every relationship needs a sprinkle of excitement here and there. I definitely agree with you though when it's time to be serious, put all the fun and "games" to the side. there's a time and a place for everything. but I definitely don't see anything wrong with a little game in a relationship no matter how new or old it may be.
@marshalledgar being humble and confident are two MAJOR things a woman should definitely be and although, every woman wants and should be pursued by a man and not the only way around [hence, the woman proposing to men nowadays]...I do see it as okay when a woman makes it known that she is interested in a man and does little things to make that known. But as far as a woman pursuing a man, a MAJOR NO NO in my book. the man should always always always be the pursuer.
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