My First Kiss, and How To Make Yours The Best Ever
My First Kiss Went A Little Like This
I think I must have been a little nervous about dating when I was younger. (Or maybe I was just wise beyond my years?) When I was in middle school and all the cool kids started dating, I was like, um, that’s weird and gross. I don’t want any boy cooties. Then when I got to high school and I started having real, intense crushes on people, I still told myself I would wait until college to date, because I wanted to focus on my schoolwork. Yay for being an ambitious lady! (Any other ambitious ladies out there??)
But my senior year of high school, a junior boy caught my eye. He was really cute, and sweet, and a little quirky, but in ways I liked. We were on the school newspaper together, and I noticed him paying a little more attention to me than guys normally did. “Could he have a crush on me?” I wondered. As we spent more and more time together, it turned out he did – and I started falling for him too. He was a really caring person, and always stuck up for what he believed was right, and that kind of sensitivity and integrity really melted my heart.
One night, after a school dance where we were both too shy to go up to one another, he sent me a text – “Do you want to go to the beach?????” I laughed out loud, and was like… right now??? And he said yes! So I picked him up and we went to the beach, on that chilly winter night, where the sand was covered in snow, and we had to stand close together to keep warm. We didn’t kiss that night, even though the moment was perfect – I didn’t want to yet. But it was the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
We started dating not long after that night, but it was another three weeks before we did anything more than hug and hold hands. I had never kissed anyone before, so I wanted to make sure it was right – the right person, the right moment… something I would be glad to remember as my first kiss for the rest of my life.
The moment came of its own accord. My boyfriend, Ryan, drove us to the beach and brought his guitar, where he played this song for me – Angel Dream No. 2, by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers.
It was such a sweet, romantic moment – he had learned the song just for me, knowing how much I love Tom Petty. Afterwards, we walked down the moonlit beach and looked at the lights sparkling down the coast. We could see the stars, bright in the dark sky, and hear the calming whoosh of the ocean waves. It was cold. I began to shiver. He drew me close and pressed his lips against my forehead. I took a deep breath, and asked myself if I was ready. My heart knew that it was the right time. I looked up into his eyes, and then, as though we already both knew exactly what to do, we kissed.
I remember being struck by the warmth of his lips on mine. And the slight moisture – not unpleasant, just present. It felt like time stopped in that moment. All that existed was me, him, and the cold salt air of the nighttime beach.
So all in all, I’d say I had a pretty amazing first kiss. Some of my friends have not been so lucky, however. If you want to have the best first kiss ever, here are my tips!
Be patient – wait for the right moment. There’s no rush to kiss someone. I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 18, and some people wait until they’re 25 or older. Don’t fret if you are in high school and have never kissed someone. It’s more common than you think. :)
Be true to yourself – wait until you are ready. Don’t follow anyone else’s timeline, or society’s idea of the right moment for a first kiss. The only person’s opinion that matters is your own.
Get into regular tooth brushing, flossing, and mouthwashing habits. Having a healthy mouth means you’re more likely to have good breath in the moments that matter.
Listen to the other person’s body. Pay attention to what nonverbal signals are telling you – for example, if they turn their face towards you and glance at your mouth and smile, maybe it’s time to take a chance and lean in for the kiss!
Wait for the right person. This is sometimes debated, but I think the best first kiss is with someone you’re going to remember. It doesn’t have to be the person you’re going to marry or anything, but I’m happy my first kiss was with my wonderful, sweet first boyfriend. We are no longer together, but I can still look back on that relationship and smile. My best friend had her first kiss with a random guy at a party that she didn’t even know – and now, she still regrets it. My advice is to make sure it’s special to you, if that’s what you want. :)
Apply chapstick once or twice a day if you have dry lips, so that they’re smooth when the moment of your first kiss arrives. You can also use your toothbrush to gently brush and exfoliate your lips every time you brush your teeth. I do it every night, and it wonders for smooth, soft lips.
I dedicate this card to @Luci546, one of the newest members of our Vingle Love & Relationship family :) You can welcome her to Vingle here!
If you have any other questions about first kiss advice, or want to know if it’s the right time for yours, send me a message! :D I hope this has been helpful and informative for everyone.
To all my Love & Relationship Vinglers: Do you remember your first kiss? What was it like? Do you have any tips to share with the not-yet-kissed?