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Want to know the secret to a long-lasting relationship? How about the secret to the longest relationship in America? Read the adorable marriage advice of America's longest married couple below!

Photo from ABC News
Text adapted from The Week
John and Ann Betar of Bridgeport, Connecticut will celebrate their 82nd wedding anniversary this year, earning them the title of America's longest married couple.
When they eloped on Nov. 25, 1932 — Ann's father had plans to marry her to a man 20 years older — her family consoled the patriarch by assuring him Ann and John's marriage wouldn't last.
It has lasted — 81 years. Naturally, everybody wants to know the secret of their relationship's longevity. The first rule would seem to be living a long time: John Betar is 102; Ann is 98.
But the Betars have some practical advice, too. Listening to them, you get the sense they bring different things to the marriage. Here's some of their wisdom:

Work at Your Relationship

"Marriage isn't a lovey-dovey thing, y'know, for 80 years," Ann says. "You learn to accept one another's way of life."
"Devote your time to understanding one another," she adds. "Really, that's the whole thing."
"We always hold hands," John adds.

Appreciate Your Family

"Well, we just take things as they come, and we're contented, and we have lovely family to support us," John says. "Beautiful."
"Agreement, disagreements, preparation on bringing up your kids," Ann adds. "That was the main interest, was your children."

Roll With It

"Be content with what you have and what you're doing," says John.
"We have watched the world change together," he continues. "The key is to always agree with your wife."

Aren't they the cutest?

Do you picture yourself growing old with the one you love?

@allischaff exactly hahaha as Frank Sinatra once beautifully put it, "love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage"!
for an elopement, they look quite enchanting and stylish. Great couple.
Ahh @mchlyang I see what you're saying there :) love should never be an obligation. It should be the most natural thing in the world, like peanut butter and jelly!! Haha :D
@allischaaff true dat...but I don't know if "work" is the right word to use.....I can't think of a better word for it, but "work" seems a bit superficial and makes love look like a responsibility, not some kind of natural feeling haha
Yes! I do picture myself growing old with the one I love!!! It's pretty sad however to think that you have to "work" at your just doesn't seem right
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