alywoah
2 years ago10,000+ Views
Lies About Interracial Dating
I have dated both inside and outside of my race. Since I am a product of an interracial relationship, interracial dating is a normal thing for me. I grew up seeing it. I've dated different guys ... from African American to Cuban to Korean and everything in between -- I am actually guy crazy and cute is cute in any race! (Am I right or am I right?)
And boyyy, do I have some things I actually want to get off my chest about interracial dating -- the truth and the lies.
Shall we?

The Other Race Won't Always Be "Better"

I often hear people say how men or women from ________ race will probably give them a better dating experience. Just because you have had a certain (bad) experience from one race, doesn't mean you'll have a better experience from someone from another race. Listen, men are men. Women are women. You're gonna have your assholes and your prince/ss charmings in every race, country, and cultural background.
And just remember that all relationships will have their good and bad times. Someone from another race is not going to offer you a perfect relationship. We must remember that we're all people -- we aren't perfect, and neither will our relationships be.
Please, trust me on this.

Opposites Won't Always Attract

There is this sort of this glorified idea that opposites (or two people from very different cultural backgrounds) might actually create a much stronger attraction or bond. This really just depends on the two people and how compromising they are with blending or sharing their culture. Sometimes, cultural differences can really cause a lot of friction in a relationship. This is also true for any language barriers.

Everyone's Not Open To Interracial Dating

Some people do come from very homogenous cultural backgrounds, where interracial (or intercultural) dating is sorta frowned upon. One of my ex-boyfriends was actually Latino like I am. However, some Latinos (especially the older generation) might prefer their children date those who are from the same country. Let's just say, his mother really didn't like the idea of him dating me. She wanted him to date a Cuban girl, not a Puerto Rican/American girl. Even in my world, my abuela strongly prefers that I date a Puerto Rican.
Have you ever dated interracially? What was your experience with it?
Personally for me, I have had good and bad experiences with men who come from both different and similar backgrounds that I come from. It really is a case-by-case thing. I can't really say I have had a better experience with one race over the other. I would say that I feel "more at home" with someone from a Latino background, or someone who's willing to learn about my cultural background.
I want to hear everyone's experience or opinion on this topic!
57 comments
I am attracted every all races. in fact, I don't understand why people are afraid to have diversity in their life. difference is not an inhibition, but a chance to learn from another cultural perspective.
2 years ago·Reply
I'm currently dating a mixed race girl who is black/latina. Honestly there's nothing different, I think, about dating interracially. we're also in new york, where there's probably more blending than anywhere else in the states. the only weird thing, and it's more of a joke than anything actually serious, is that in either of our extended families, we are each the one outlier. My family is all irish and married to irish people (with the exception of my brother, who dates a polish girl - still white though) and her family is all puerto-rican for the most part. So she's the only brown face at our family stuff, and I'm the only white face at theirs. it's never been a problem, though, or will ever be. I have to say, though, her cooking is better than any white girl I've seen. (but she's also just a really good cook on her own anyway.)
2 years ago·Reply
I’ve dated a lot interracially actually! I’m on the same page as you “cute is cute in any race!” :) The only issue I’ve faced was dealing with family members. Sometimes I got angry or upset looks from family members and my partner would tell me his family is a little upset that he’s dating “the white girl.” some families I feel are protective and only promote dating within their race. But they warmed up to me after they got to know me :)
2 years ago·Reply
my dream us to move to California it's so much culture there. but I will do my research
2 years ago·Reply
Love that @MarySEW! :) I love learning and meeting new people from different cultural backgrounds.
2 years ago·Reply
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