Humans have a tendency to hold on to things. It's just in our nature. In times of great sadness or loss we often hold on to what we think will make us happy, when in fact it's what's bringing us down.
Here are 5 ways to let things go and feel less pain as life progresses, because who likes to feel sad?
1. Channel your rage / sadness into something constructive.
I like to keep a journal. The pages are my sounding board. Nobody has to know it exists and nobody will ever see it. I feel like I'm doing something constructive and I end up being more productive and less hateful if I get out my frustration. Music is a great outlet for me as well.
I've said this a million times in a thousand ways, but you have to release in order to move on, so find something you really love that doesn't hurt you...and go for it.
2. Forget expectations.
I'm a firm believer in living up to your potential and then blowing past it. Do not expect anything, just go into things with the best attitude possible and give it a really good go. You know? That's all you can do. Especially with work or school. You have to get past the notion of always having to justify your actions.
3. Remember you don't have to forgive in order to be cordial.
If you're always going head to head with your friends, family co-workers, etc, you know that sometimes things just never pan out. There's resentment, fear and anger. You do not have to live and put up with these things on a daily basis. All you have to do is function.
If you don't feel like forgiving someone, then don't. Do it on your own terms, but letting go doesn't mean everything's okay...it just means you can be okay without someone else's permission.
4. Consider the fact that there are some things you can't control.
I always get bogged down thinking of other people's opinions and issues relating to circumstances that are truly beyond my control. Letting things go requires a bit of ignorance. If we sat around and got upset by all of the things we can't do anything about at the moment, we wouldn't leave our houses. Some days we have to ignore the wrong and go with whatever God we believe in. Because someday, we'll have to answer for all of the energy we wasted being pissed off.
5. Remember that everyone's learning, and they're just as ass-backwards as you.
This doesn't mean you have to tread lightly or give anyone your respect. That's the beauty and curse of life...nobody fucking gets it. And the sooner you understand that, the sooner you can let it all go.
Forgiveness is something people may never understand...but we can all rally around our own ignorance. We must expose the truth as we see it, but we should not hurt others in the process. Letting go also means having faith in humanity, in life and in yourself. Only those who are deeply insecure head out and attack others. Remember that and you'll be fine.