2 years ago
alywoah
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I'm 27: I Don't Want To Settle Down!
Dude: Don't you want to settle down yet?
Me: Not right now. I am still very young. Besides -- when I think of happiness, I think of traveling, writing, doing what I love, and building my career."
Dude: That sounds like a lonely life to me...

My 27th birthday came faster than I can say, “what the fuck I totally just hit a quarter-life crisis.” It was like it was just yesterday I was celebrating my 21st birthday, throwing back Brasilian caipirinhas. As I approach closer to 30 (oh god), it’s as if the pressure to settle down is building up.
Why is it that women are pressured to either make a family, OR build their careers?

If men can do both, I can do both.

I want to be a mother, and the money-maker. But first, I just really want to get my shit together.
"Aly, work hard. Get a good job. Travel the world. Don't worry about getting married yet," my old-fashioned abuelita said in her thick Puerto Rican accent. It was the first time I really thought of her as being "modern". But, maybe not even "modern," but maybe she just really understood me.
She stopped asking me if I was dating someone new, a long time ago. I guess she got the point that I was just more of a career/hobby-driven person. I've always thought relationships kinda came last in the list of things (which probably royally fucked up a lot of my relationships).
The list is something like this: 1) School/career things
2) Alone time
3) Family time
4) More alone time
5) Netflix
6) Maybe see boyfriend this weekend?
It's not that I don't want to settle down, but more like I don't want to settle down YET. It can totally be that I just haven't found love yet. Or, I just don't know what that even looks like. Or maybe I just have my mind busy with something else.

All I know is that for right now -- I don't want to settle down.

And...I don't need to explain myself.


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Fosho :) Yeah I have Lou but I hate everyone telling me to have kids and get married. It's my life man >_<
2 years ago·Reply
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you don't have to do anything until it's something you want to do. focus on your career, it'll make more doors open for you in the future.
2 years ago·Reply
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@Goey246 exactly!!!! <3
2 years ago·Reply
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I'm the same and I don't feel like women should be pressured to settle down. I think we have this pressure because of our biological clocks. There is some truth to the it's gets harder to have kids at a certain age, and not that you're close to that age but that's the reason they tell us to settle down.
2 years ago·Reply
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to settle down mean you have to be brave enough to take a commitment
a year ago·Reply
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