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Dude: Don't you want to settle down yet?
Me: Not right now. I am still very young. Besides -- when I think of happiness, I think of traveling, writing, doing what I love, and building my career."
Dude: That sounds like a lonely life to me...

My 27th birthday came faster than I can say, “what the fuck I totally just hit a quarter-life crisis.” It was like it was just yesterday I was celebrating my 21st birthday, throwing back Brasilian caipirinhas. As I approach closer to 30 (oh god), it’s as if the pressure to settle down is building up.
Why is it that women are pressured to either make a family, OR build their careers?

If men can do both, I can do both.

I want to be a mother, and the money-maker. But first, I just really want to get my shit together.
"Aly, work hard. Get a good job. Travel the world. Don't worry about getting married yet," my old-fashioned abuelita said in her thick Puerto Rican accent. It was the first time I really thought of her as being "modern". But, maybe not even "modern," but maybe she just really understood me.
She stopped asking me if I was dating someone new, a long time ago. I guess she got the point that I was just more of a career/hobby-driven person. I've always thought relationships kinda came last in the list of things (which probably royally fucked up a lot of my relationships).
The list is something like this: 1) School/career things
2) Alone time
3) Family time
4) More alone time
5) Netflix
6) Maybe see boyfriend this weekend?
It's not that I don't want to settle down, but more like I don't want to settle down YET. It can totally be that I just haven't found love yet. Or, I just don't know what that even looks like. Or maybe I just have my mind busy with something else.

All I know is that for right now -- I don't want to settle down.

And...I don't need to explain myself.

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Fosho :) Yeah I have Lou but I hate everyone telling me to have kids and get married. It's my life man >_<
you don't have to do anything until it's something you want to do. focus on your career, it'll make more doors open for you in the future.
@Goey246 exactly!!!! <3
I'm the same and I don't feel like women should be pressured to settle down. I think we have this pressure because of our biological clocks. There is some truth to the it's gets harder to have kids at a certain age, and not that you're close to that age but that's the reason they tell us to settle down.
to settle down mean you have to be brave enough to take a commitment