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We need to ban the idea of "The Friend Zone" right now. It is shoved in our faces from every direction, from jokes at school or work to mentions on TV Shows where nice guys always end up in "the friend zone" by the girl they want to be more then friends with.
Its always sad and the friend is always super upset about it but can't help clinging on to the idea that maybe one day, the girl will open her eyes and see that this whole time her friend was actually the one she wanted to be with.
Well, I hate to break it to you but the friend zone isn't only pathetic, its also super sexist.
What you consider "trapped the friend zone" we girls just consider you being our good friend. Totally rude and crazy of us right? Wrong.
Because if you are being a girls friend just because you hope she realizes she wants to screw you later in life you are literally the worst human on the planet.
Nice guys aren't just nice to girls so they can get in their pants; thats what assholes do. And the friend zone is just another way to place blame on women for them not wanting to fuck you. Which honestly is super pathetic because Sorry but not every women will want you.

So if you believe you're in the friend zone, do us all a favor a get over yourself; because not every interaction that includes a girl should revolve around if you're getting some or not.

So this is definitely an eye of the beholder situation. Females can be "friend zoned" as well as males (speaking from experience) and no the friend zone does not always mean they just wanted you for sex. The friend zone (at least in my group of friends) is where the people who want relationships but are denied by the other party lie. It's not just about sex it is about wanting a relationship about becoming more than friends. Yes I agree that the media takes it to far and does, to some extent, shame women for this but media aside you are able to take things and make them into something that won't insult anyone just as my friend group has done. We don't shame people for "friend zoning" or being "friend zoned" we sympathize.
Someone just told me a quote and I think it's something that might pertain here to the feelings that some people are talking about: "Sometimes life sends us people who don't love us enough, to remind us of what we're worthy of." I don't think men or women, either one, are immune to any of this. We are all human, and thus, we all have feelings. None of us should make people feel less than they are worth, but we all do at some point. When it happens to you, it is THE WORST feeling. Think about that when you are interacting with everyone - but especially when someone tells you that they have feelings. Just my two cents here.
Believe it or not I do understand very well retribution for not returning affection. I just wanted to address this female pity party. I am personally very sensitive to this as women are so certain they are all saints. I am not trying to protect a jerk, just to say that not all jerks have a dick. I have seen Basic Instinct and Enough.
I'm so sharing this. it's a fascinating perspective and I feel bad for not thinking about it before
I agree 100% with all of this. I’ve lost so many guy friends because they blamed me for putting them in this so-called “friend zone” I just want to be valued as a friend and a person.
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