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Toxic Lies We Tell Ourselves About Love

We all know love can be extremely toxic.

As beautiful as love can be, it can be just as ugly. Like anything negative, love can corrupt both our lives, as well as our thoughts. It's up to you to live a positive lifestyle and rid yourself of these negative thoughts when it comes to this thing called love. It happens to the best of us, so don't beat yourself up. We've all had that terrible break up or fallen for that one person who turned out to be the total opposite of who we thought they were. That's life and sometimes we have to suck it up, accept it and move on.
They say honesty is the best policy and sometimes we have the tendency to tell ourselves lies to make us feel better, but in the end it's not always helping us instead it is hurting us. Just because one guy failed you in the past doesn't mean they all will. Having a mindset like that will prevent you from finding love and ultimately finding yourself. If you've ever been down this rocky road, keep scrolling to see what lies we tell ourselves about love that we should stop immediately.

1. “Love is for everyone except me.”

We've all been hurt. There's a saying that says, "we fall down, but we get up". Basically, don't allow one disappointment to get in the way of something beautiful that could come about in the future. Be positive and instead of focusing on loving someone else -- focus on loving yourself. Love will come in due time. All you need is love, but sometimes you can do without.

2. “I don’t really deserve more.”

You are very deserving. You deserve the world. What you think, you become. If you believe you aren't deserving of more than you will become that person who takes anything that comes their way. Nobody wants to be that person. You deserve the best and nothing less.

3. “I know this relationship isn’t great, but it’s better than being alone.”

Don't allow the fear of being alone have you jumping from relationship to relationship. Be with someone that you can actually see yourself marrying. Date with a purpose, not just to say you are involved with someone.

4. “It has to look like ‘love at first sight.’”

Love at first sight sounds good, but don't become so caught up in a fairytale fantasy that you allow the potential love of your life to walk right on by. Nothing worth having happens over night. Remember that when it comes to the world of dating.

5. “If I ignore this red flag, it’ll go away or change.”

Never ignore the signs. Speak up and don't feel ashamed for doing so. You can't fix a problem or situation if you don't speak on it.
You may have been lied to be by others, but that doesn't mean you need to continue the cycle by lying to yourself.

Be honest with yourself and give love a try.

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Good card c: I especially help my friends with the first one. Some of my friends are younger than me and while I graduated, they're still in high school so they're running amuck with drama and unreliable boyfriends and I just tell them not to focus on dating if you're just dating for fear of loneliness. I tell them they have to love themselves first, figure out what's best for them and leave the dating for when they're ready and they're not surrounded in poisonous people
you sound like an amazing friend. sometimes people have to hear it first hand from someone who has been down that road before. I'm sure you friends will definitely benefit from you helping them out and pointing them in the right direction @Luci546