2 years ago5,000+ Views
Are We Done Sexualizing Children Yet?
Can we all just agree that that title should never need to be written; and yet we live in a world where toddlers wearing two piece bathing suits or little girls and boys wanting to dress up like their favorite character regardless of gender is a huge fucking deal.
And my one question is why?
A little girl in a cute mermaid two piece should not be scorned because her bathing suit is too revealing or grown up because you as the grown up are the one perceiving it that way!!! News flash: little kids where clothes because they love them, not because it makes them look a certain way.
But this past week the sexualizing of children was taken to the next level.
One of the original online superstars Perez Hilton is well known for being bitchy, cut throat and always the first one with the gossip. But in recent years he also has added father to his resume, keeping his Instagram full of cute pictures of his two children Mario and Mia.
Do you see anything wrong with this silly bath time picture of a loving father and his child? Because I sure don't.
Too bad the online trolls that need to get all their frustration out on the internet felt all types of ways about this picture calling this bath time perverted, rape, disgusting, and a way to turn his son gay (ohhhh so thats how that happens) EYE ROLL.
Start my disgust with the human race.....NOW.
Because not only is Perez doing the correct thing by making sure his toddler doesn't drown while taking a shower or bath, this picture depicts absolutely nothing sexual.
And why the hell are people somehow finding a way to make a father and his toddler sexual in any way? WHYYYYYYY??
The sexualization of children needs to stop. Because they are innocent and good and still uncorrupted by this clearly disturbed world and whatever "inappropriate" things that toddlers do are a fabrication of the person thinking them.
So do us all a favor and stop, because its disgusting.
ALSO, the homophobic remarks are absolutely repulsive and seriously stupid. Gay Dads rock and fyi gay isn't a disease that can be rubbed off on someone; so grow up and education yourself.
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I feel like I've been kind of lucky in regards to what my children girls have been naturally inclined towards dressing modestly. But when they have gotten more revealing clothing, I don't make any issue over it, and when others start to, I shut them down quick. Now, an area of contention I have faced was when I received a letter from the school informing me that my 8 yr old, second grade, daughter needed to start wearing a bra because she was becoming noticeably endowed. Woo-hoo-hoo! I rampaged through the school bright and early the next morning. "WHO is looking at my 8 yr old daughter's chest and paying such close attention to her maturation?!" When it comes to photos, I am torn. On one hand, I like to document those wonderful moments, no matter status of attire. I videotaped my youngest daughter sloshing around in the tub, singing "I'm a little fishy, fishy, fishy." I have aunts and grandparents with whom I'd love to share such things, but the other hand is that there are people who would report it as child porn or child abuse or what-not. Another concern is what would happen if a deviant got hold of such material (I shudder and feel sick at the thought). It's a hard line to walk as a parent, wanting to enjoy our children's youth, wanting to protect them from predators, and wanting to nurture their sense of self.
2 years ago·Reply
@BeannachtOraibh oh my goodness what teacher thought that was an appropriate note to send?!?!?! You're so right, who on earth was paying attention? No one should be! Ugh! One thing I do remember when I was younger, and this still upsets me, but it was IMPOSSIBLE to find shorts in my size that weren't SUPER short. Like, way shorter than I was comfortable with. So my options in the summer were to be uncomfortable because I was wearing pants, or because I was revealing too much. If we're going to talk about the sexualization of children, we should definitely be holding clothing companies accountable. Kids should be able to make choices that they feel okay with. You bring up a very good point. My parents did the same thing- there's a video of me at 1 or 2 years old in the tub covered in spaghetti and SO PROUD of myself. And that kind of video is of course not intended to be child pornography. It's a video of a kid doing something goofy! But then it's on the internet, and suddenly it's open to this whole world where people will see something different. "Wanting to protect them from predators and wanting to nurture their sense of self" you got that right! It really doesn't seem like the world is doing enough to help parents in this respect
2 years ago·Reply
very well said @LizArnone Wow, this whole topic is ridiculous. Why make something seem what it is not? People need to get a life and stop being so negative and paranoid. ugh......disgusted by what these people have said.
2 years ago·Reply
@KaraHevner for sure! I'm really liking the comments people have left here. Vinglers are a smart group of people ^_^
2 years ago·Reply
@shannonl5 That's one of my favorite things about Vingle. A lot of people here are intellectuals. It's refreshing!
2 years ago·Reply