2 years ago10,000+ Views
#ThatsNotLove Campaign Fights Back Against Relationship Violence

This startling new campaign from the One Love Foundation should be a must-watch for all young people.

The video, which is starting to go viral, aims to educate people on relationship violence – what to look for, and how to see through the lies people tell to mask it.
It comes from a great source, too – the One Love Foundation was founded after the brutal assault and murder of UVA student Yeardley Love by her boyfriend. It's shocking that even the people who say they love us most can sometimes be the biggest danger in our lives; luckily, the One Love movement is working hard to educate young people on the warning signs of relationship abuse.

Check out the video, and share to spread the word about relationship violence with your social networks:

Powerful stuff. I thought this video was really well done, and I'll definitely be sharing it on my personal Facebook – I hope you guys will too. It could really benefit the people in your life, even the ones you have no idea face this kind of situation every day.
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@nicolejb There are many types of violence. I think it would be a mistake to raise awareness about domestic abuse without targeting the more subtle signs. After all, people know what domestic abuse ("violence") looks like. It's pretty cut and dried. What people don't always know to look for are the beginnings of relationship violence – and yes, I do believe that starts with trying to control where someone goes, who they see, who they can or can't talk to, policing their social media accounts, threatening harm to their personal possessions if they don't obey, and using "Because I love you," as the justification for harmful behaviors.
2 years ago·Reply
Totally! And I agree. I guess I was mostly wondering if the campaign itself was covering all types of relationship abuse, or specifically targeting emotional abuse. @allischaaff
2 years ago·Reply
@nicolejb You can find out more here:
2 years ago·Reply
but don't forget that some people that be in relationships like this feel like they can't do any better and that's why they don't leave the abuser
2 years ago·Reply
@itiswhatitis365 well said. I agree with Almost everything you had to say. But not the idea that this happens when we are only dating the "risky", bad boy types. See what you are not getting is that some of these guys (and women) are master actors. I dated my own personal hell for almost two years. Before we dated, we had known each other for six years. I had never seen anything that gave me a warning that something was off. Once we started dating, things were awesome for a very long time. He was attentive, kind, charming, smart...everything he had always been. I never had any reason to even consider changing him. We had been dating for a year and a half when my best friend, a guy, returned home from deployment. He was an MP and older than us. It started so small and seemingly silly. He started wanting to know what I did on nights before when we weren't together. Every single morning, he started in on it, wanting every detail of how I spent my evenings. It slowly escalated from there, the emotional and mental games. I thought he was just jealous and I did everything I could to show him there was no reason to worry about it. He didn't lay a hand on me for the entire time of this progression (in hindsight, I know now what was happening. I was young and he was my first long term boyfriend.) Then one night, my parents had an officer's ball on base and we were supposed to hang out and watch movies. One of my three brothers was also home with a couple of his friends, playing basketball and listening to music outside. My boyfriend and I had just started a movie when my friend called. I got off the phone quickly, but it was still the "wrong" thing. Fifteen minutes later, I had a broken nose, 4 broken ribs, two black eyes, a busted lip, various internal injuries...well, you get the idea. It wasn't pretty. He seriously just snapped, and then calmly left my house as if nothing had even happened. I blacked out. My second brother came home shortly after this and found me there. He called for help, called my parents, and called my best friend because he was an MP and we lived right off base. The point of all of this... I didn't choose the "bad guy" type. Quite the opposite, actually. I had known him for years. I did know how he treated everyone. The signs all came fast and hard at the end of it all. Today, I know what to watch for because it happened. Now, when I date someone, I can catch little things pretty fast, facial expressions and small mannerisms. I know when to walk away quickly. I simply implore you to remember that not all of us who have dealt with this issue went out looking for a fix 'em up, bad boy type. *side note: I eventually married my best friend. He discharged out and became a civilian police officer. That's where I lost him. Thank you for Your service, in whatever capacity it was in.
2 years ago·Reply