2 years ago1,000+ Views

Intimacy is meant to be sacred.

Unfortunately, we messed that up along time ago. We're so used to letting anyone in, that we've become immune to doing so. We fall for the first face we see and before we know it the rest is history. If we took the time to get to know people, as much as people take the time being intimate, I'm pretty sure the idea of love would be a lot stronger. You don't have to be religious to know that sex is meant to be shared between two people who truly care about each other. In Biblical terms, a man and wife. We've erased that idea from our minds and lay down with the first person who deems their worthy. Just to find out a couple months later, they're gone and it's back to phase one. Your feelings got involved and for that person who got away, you were nothing more than a quick thrill.
They tell us to use contraceptives, but they never mention the contraceptives needed to protect your mind from the hurt and the memories that constantly haunt you after you get your heart broken. That's why getting to know a person and waiting is always your best option. Even if you don't wait until marriage, at least wait until you're sure. Sometimes that sure thing, isn't the best thing. The video [seen below] talks about what we often times keep mum about. When you let someone in physically, you're also letting them in mentally and when the physical is gone -- sadly, the mental is still left there lingering. Guard your heart, guard your mind and resist the urge. You're worth the wait.
Feedback on this video would be awesome!

What do you all think?

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Honestly I think a lot of the messages we get about love and sex are really messed up. There's so much pressure (particularly on guys but on everyone) to have already had your "first time", to be like Really Good At Sex right from the start, to enjoy it (but not too much) and just... there's so little space for different kinds of experiences and needs. Some people like sex, some don't. Some people like having lots of partners and others only want one. We're all different but it really feels like the way we talk about sex is 'one size fits all'.
2 years ago·Reply
haha @jordanhamilton I don't know if that's what you were looking for, just my thoughts on the subject
2 years ago·Reply
No, @shannonl5 that's exactly what I was looking for and I appreciate your feedback! I agree though, I feel like no matter how we look at it at the end of the day we all place 'sex' in the same tiny box. Like you mentioned people all see it from different angles [some like it, some don't], but despite those angles once it's placed back in the same box with four corners it's all the same in a way. but it's really not. I just think we all over analyze it a lot, but on the flip side sometimes it should be over analyzed. I think people abuse it in a sense because in a way we were all taught that it should be associated with love and in most cases, it really never is. well, not much anymore.
2 years ago·Reply
@jordanhamilton that's very true- people take advantage of others' feelings and I think in some ways we're encouraged to. I think men especially get the message that they should be taking peoples' feelings for granted- sort of in the same way they're told they're sex-crazed horndogs without feelings of their own. And it's total garbage of course. But if they're taught over and over again that's how to behave it's not surprising when some of them do.
2 years ago·Reply
DEFINITELY! We tend to follow what we're told or what we see and in turn, most of the time it's just a bunch of nonsense. Not all men are horrendous and not all women are submissive. I guess it all boils down to having to figure it all out on your own @shannonl5
2 years ago·Reply