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jordanhamilton
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When Falling For The Right Person Turns Wrong

They say two wrongs don't make a right.


Unfortunately, they never quite mentioned that right that could possible make a wrong. We fall. That's life. We are human beings and as much as we try not to fall, it happens. Before you get the wrong idea, I'm not talking about falling in the physical -- but, more so in the mental sense. You meet a person and over time you get to know them on a more personal level. In the beginning you think nothing of it. Friends is as far as things will go because you have no expectations, right? Correct.

Your relationship begins to grow and you find yourselves talking more to the point where you end up catching feelings. You promised yourself you wouldn't, but you're not upset about it. Like I said, it happens. You still have no expectations, but those feelings you have for that person seem to be intensifying. You just hope that those feelings are mutual and based off the vibe, you're pretty sure that they are. That is until that person begins to distance themselves and you're left with just your thoughts. You're used to it, but you can't help but question was it you?
Thinking back on past encounters you shared with the person you try and piece together pieces that just don't seem to fit. You start to drive yourself crazy and as much as you don't want to, you decide it's in your best interest to move on. Easier said than done, right? Of course. We all know how that goes. Moving on past someone you saw potential in is like trying to drive away when your car is in park -- it won't work. You need answers. Whether good or bad, just hearing from the person will make your day.

They're so right, but this is so wrong? The timing. The feelings. The expectations that you thought you didn't have. They're there and bright as day. You had them all along, you were just lying to yourself. But you figure better you lie to yourself than someone else.

They say two wrongs don't make a right, but they never told us about that right that makes a wrong.
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OMG! that's crazy. I would've definitely had to remove myself from that situation. nobody should try and force you to do anything. I've been in a situation where I was forced to follow their rules. it was their way or the high way. I've definitely learned my lesson though @MelissaMae
@jordanhamilton thats what everyone thinks from the outside lonking in but being on the inside is a whole different story, especially when the love was real and not just some infatuation but this man arroused my nurturing and caring side and my empathy so strogly. i cared for him so deeply that most people cant understand i dont know why i even bother to try to explain. no one wik ever understand. but let me pv it this way. to disconnect all of the sudden was not possible. the trauma from disconnecting like that would have been worse than what he was doing to me. just walking away at that point is unfathomable. thats called trauma bonding. many women experience it. even rape victims have been known to bond with their rapist because they have taken a part of their soul violently and they feel a part of themselves is with that person and being with them somehow eases the pain. i was soul raped. so im sorry if you cant understand and maybe you would just leave but you would have to be a lot stronger than i was.
trust me, it may seem like I don't understand but I do more than you know. I was in a controlling relationship for two and a half years and I still loved him despite his flaws and how he treated me. I will say I would never put myself in a situation like that again, but I can say that it molded me into the woman I am today. two separate situations, same moral. I understand @MelissaMae
so what you mean is that after what you have already experienced you would not stay? in that relationship, did you feel like your soul had been raped by a heartless cruel predator? it couldtbe that he didnt rape me because he didnt have access to my physical body. and i definately felt that. he is a predator, no doubt.
nearly 5 years late, the woman I am today would not stick around. but love will make you do some crazy things sometimes @MelissaMae