I'm a youngin' -- ain't no denying it. I am only 27 years old, but there's qutie a bit I have learned in 27 years. Ten years ago when I was seventeen years old, I was a giant idiot. Now, I am less of an idiot when it comes to men and dating. Am I an expert? Hell nah. But I have learned a lot -- A LOT in the past 10 years.
1) Not All Men Cheat
It's easy to take the negative in the past and think that the 1 or 2 guys who cheated on us are a good representation of who men are as a whole. But believe me when I say this: there are good men out there. Men who are loyal, loving, respectful, and amazing. I PROMISE!!!
2) One Race isn't Better Than the Other
Call me the queen of interracial dating if you want. But one thing I learned from dating in and out my race is that at the end of the day, men are men. I have written about this in my previous cards, but I will repeat myself: you're going to have prince charmings and assholes in all sorts of races and creed. It doesn't even matter how conservative their culture may be. At the end of the day, we're human -- and we have our flaws -- ALL of us. Date who you want, just remember that one race isn't naturally better than the other -- maybe just DIFFERENT.
3) Give Love a Chance (if you want it)
Everyone gets hurt -- it sucks, I know. But it doesn't mean that ends our chance to finding real, true love. I can't even count how many times I've been hurt, but I know because of human err, shit will just hit the fan. But that doesn't mean I should stop myself from stumbling into love again. I am not perfect, and neither will the person I will be with will.
4) Not All Men Are the Same
Seriously. Stop thinking that they are. Just as women are complex, so are men. We need to stop thinking that the guy we were with for however many years, is the same as the guy we just met. Treat every man you meet like a new man -- as you should.
5) Men Want The Same Thing We Want
And sometimes they don't know what they want, and neither do women sometimes. Sometimes men want the thrill of a quick steam, others want to fall so deeply in love, they almost lose themselves. Some men want to focus on their careers, others want to be absolutely focused on their family - some want both. It goes back to men being as complex as women are. We are all human, remember this.