alywoah
2 years ago5,000+ Views
What I Learned About Men in 27 Years
I'm a youngin' -- ain't no denying it. I am only 27 years old, but there's qutie a bit I have learned in 27 years. Ten years ago when I was seventeen years old, I was a giant idiot. Now, I am less of an idiot when it comes to men and dating. Am I an expert? Hell nah. But I have learned a lot -- A LOT in the past 10 years.

1) Not All Men Cheat

It's easy to take the negative in the past and think that the 1 or 2 guys who cheated on us are a good representation of who men are as a whole. But believe me when I say this: there are good men out there. Men who are loyal, loving, respectful, and amazing. I PROMISE!!!

2) One Race isn't Better Than the Other

Call me the queen of interracial dating if you want. But one thing I learned from dating in and out my race is that at the end of the day, men are men. I have written about this in my previous cards, but I will repeat myself: you're going to have prince charmings and assholes in all sorts of races and creed. It doesn't even matter how conservative their culture may be. At the end of the day, we're human -- and we have our flaws -- ALL of us. Date who you want, just remember that one race isn't naturally better than the other -- maybe just DIFFERENT.

3) Give Love a Chance (if you want it)

Everyone gets hurt -- it sucks, I know. But it doesn't mean that ends our chance to finding real, true love. I can't even count how many times I've been hurt, but I know because of human err, shit will just hit the fan. But that doesn't mean I should stop myself from stumbling into love again. I am not perfect, and neither will the person I will be with will.

4) Not All Men Are the Same

Seriously. Stop thinking that they are. Just as women are complex, so are men. We need to stop thinking that the guy we were with for however many years, is the same as the guy we just met. Treat every man you meet like a new man -- as you should.

5) Men Want The Same Thing We Want

And sometimes they don't know what they want, and neither do women sometimes. Sometimes men want the thrill of a quick steam, others want to fall so deeply in love, they almost lose themselves. Some men want to focus on their careers, others want to be absolutely focused on their family - some want both. It goes back to men being as complex as women are. We are all human, remember this.
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Very well said @alywoah you're absolutely right. Before I met my husband, I use to say that I will never date a puertorican man, that they are all slimy bastards. (Mind you I'm puertorican myself). And lo and behold. I met and fell in love with my husband, an amazing puertorican. Almost 15 years later and three kids together, we're still doing it. 馃槈. So I've learned, like you said, not every man is the same. There ARE great men and great women out there. Don't be judgmental because the last person pooped on you hard, give them a chance. Pay attention. Open your mind, let yourself go free and you will meet that person. Usually at the most random place. 馃挄馃挄
2 years agoReply
#6. Not all men desire/require women to look like magazine covers.
2 years agoReply
@marshalledgar hell yeah & I know I say this a lot of times, but I LOVE this card XD
2 years agoReply
Aww that's very cute! @Karencorchdo -- I've always found it super weird when people are so against a certain race. But hey, it is what it is. I am glad you've found the man of your dreams! And you're right -- sometimes love finds us at the most random places. <3
2 years agoReply
Very true! Thank you for showing some love on my cards!!! Actions definitely speak louder than words, and we should allow people to prove themselves. <3 <3
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