It's hard enough when we have other people hating on us. What happens when we can't stop hating on ourselves?
People say you can't take responsibility for yourself if you pass blame on to others. For fear of looking irresponsible or blatantly ignorant, most of us take blame internally, mostly for things we can't control. How many times have you been faced with a situation that was futile from the start, and just ended up hating on yourself instead?
Like, when you fail a test, you should blame yourself because you didn't study right?
But when you break up with someone, who is clearly not good for you, you end up blaming yourself.
We take blame and hate on ourselves for all kinds of things that are out of our control. We hate on ourselves.
We hate our bodies.
We hate our minds.
We hate our friends.
We hate our enemies.
We hate our nails.
We hate our hair.
We hate our skin.
We hate our careers.
We hate on just about everything that has to do with ourselves, because honestly: we feel like we're guilty.
Guilty of not being pretty enough, or smart enough, or just not being enough in general. Our guilt for living below some impossible standard we've made up in our heads propels us to hate on ourselves.
How do we stop doing this you may ask?
We have to gain a little perspective.
Honestly, sit down and look at yourself, without judgement, as anyone else on the planet would look at you.
Evaluate yourself logically, and see where you stand. Try and detach yourself, I guarantee you you're doing way better than you think you are. Your hair is probably just fine. And your mind is probably brilliant. Your body is probably wonderful and your heart is probably big.
Ask yourself these questions, and answer honestly:
1. Am I happy?
2. Am I doing what I want to do?
3. Am I healthy?
4. Am I doing my best?
5. Do I have a plan?
6. Do I care?
Based on your answers, and the objectivity involved you'll probably discover that you're doing just fine. Things will be okay. If you're working hard, and trying to do better, you're fine.
Just keep moving.