Have you ever gotten some really crappy advice or been devalued by a narcissist or a co-dependant? Please note that I am not suggesting that all co-dependants are this way but i have known some who, when they cant fix you, they don't want anything else to do with you. It happened to me and it left me with the feeling that i am only worth their time if im becoming a successful project for them. It makes you feel that their love is conditional upon how you respond to their teaching and advice. It further motivated me to stay exactly the same as i was because i felt that i should be loved for who i am or not at all.
lol this is my comment and i thought it should be added to the card.