2 years ago1,000+ Views
Earlier today I was scrolling through Facebook, when I saw a video uploaded that showed a father going way too far in his discipline tactics
No, it wasn’t an “old-fashioned whoopin’” as the video suggested, but rather, full-blown abuse. Let's call it what it is. The girl in the video was being whipped over-and-over again by her father and I couldn’t shake the images my brain was rolling to -- the kind of whipping you'd see in movies where slaves were being tortured by their slave owners.
It was difficult to determine the kind of damage the young girl suffered, but something tells me the abuse was so bad, she may have crawled away from her father with broken, bloodied skin, bruises, and a memory she will never be able to shake.
After several seconds watching the video, my knees buckled and my heart clung to the back my throat.
There's a reoccurring theme: a black woman or girl is abused and it's snickered at like a comedy film at a theater. And the audience is thinking: how funny, another black girl is getting so beat up, she's almost crawling to death. What a knee-slap! How can anyone not stop and think, wait a second...

...this is wrong.

You quickly realize there are people who sit back in their chairs watching this sort of beatings, as if they were at a sports event.
“She walked away like ima still be a hoe”
“Lowkey looks like she was enjoying it in the middle”
“She deserved it”
“Good job dad, now she’s not going to be able to c*m without getting spanked with a belt once she’s an adult.”
“Damn he whipped her like his slave.”
“God damn! He beat the thot out of her”
“Whip that dirty niggr like a slave!”
These are actual comments from the video.
The girl in the video is young and must have been in her teens. The context of the video as to WHY he was beating her can be disputed. However, whatever that reason might be, It still doesn’t make it okay for her father to beat her the way he did. And it’s also not okay that that there is actually an audience that gets a kick out of black child abuse or even domestic violence on black women.
This is an example of many, that showcases the abuse of black girls for gross entertainment.
Black women and black girls who suffer from violence, aren’t viewed as victims. In this world, there is no such thing as black vulnerability -- it just doesn't fit within the context of violence and victimization.
Black women experience intimate partner violence at a rate of 35 percent higher than that of white females, and about 2.5 times the rate of other races. Also according to Time, black women are almost three times more likely to experience death as a result of domestic violence, than white women.
Xojane Contributor, Kristen West Savali wrote about black women and abuse and hit a lot of important points about the issue.
She mentions that black women have to be silent because of the fear as being cast as the villain. And this is important, because often black women who are victims of abuse, will often be vilified. In addition to becoming vilified, it's usually followed with maybe that black girl was too loud, too ugly, too hoeish, too ghetto, or just too black to ever be a victim of abuse.
Although we often say that everyone is create equally, we must remember that not everyone is ACTUALLY TREATED equally. We must think reflect on the rhetoric that visits the notion of how black people are subhuman -- not worthy of the same, basic human rights as a privileged race. And black children aren't saved from this twisted rational, either.
And most often, this rhetoric ISN'T displayed in neon lights. It swifts in silence when someone knocks their eyes to the back of their head, when they hear about those "thug boys getting shot up again". It bounces back on a computer screen as a few people snicker in solitude when seeing a black woman being lashed. It is garnished in a half-assed 'political correctness' of "he shouldn't have beat that black little girl, BUT --"

My stomach twists in knots, every time a video is uploaded on the internet, and it's another black woman being abused. But also not just being abused, she is now in the spotlight of several internet pigs who think her suffering is a delight to watch.

Abuse isn't a laughing matter.

It's a cry for help.

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i dont know if i can agree that there is inequality in the way abuse is thought of for black women. it was probably just that the audience of the person who first shared it was not a good one. i wouldnt come to that conclusion based on facebook comments. i white and i was blamed, ignored and called a liar when i told my ex narcs friends and family what he did to me. that was the wrong people. when i tell my friends and followers, they are empathetic. i think it is equal straight down the line because there is hatred and racism coming from every race of people. im not going to claim that white women being abused are treated poorly as opposed to other races just because some people in pakistan didnt care that i was emotionally and'mentally abused and even made me feel more abused by the way they responded to me. why the race thing? some people are just without conscience. some people are racist. white people are hated too. a black panther leader said that all cracker babies should be killed. but if you want to hear news like that, you have to listen to rush limbaugh or fox news because liberal media doesnt report on that stuff.
2 years ago·Reply
but im against all abuse and especially at the hands of one's own parants. it is hard to know that such people exist who applaude this abuse. i am keenly aware that this world is desperately evil beyond repair.
2 years ago·Reply
You're right, abuse affects everyone from all races, genders, religion, and parts of the world. What I've did in this card was hammer a specific topic within abuse. There are a wide range of issues and topics surrounding abuse on people in general. This can be anything from infant abuse, to even rape by your own spouse. It's important to really corner those issues and dissect them independently.There's so many things to talk about within abuse. It's not to say that abuse doesn't affect other people. What I am trying to talk about is how abuse on black women is often perceived as entertainment. I am talking about a very specific topic of abuse within the black community. Black women are often seen a certain way -- barbaric, ghetto, ratchet, mean, harsh, so when abuse affects them, social sympathy is offered less often. For this card, it's absolutely necessary to talk about race because I am not talking about everyone, I am talking abut the social dynamics and implications of black victims of abuse -- which is different because although we'd like to say everyone's created equally in the eyes of God, unfortunately people are treated differently though the hands of man. I do thank you for commenting, @MelissaMae!
2 years ago·Reply
Do you think that people would not react that way if they saw this happening to a white girl? idk if the answer to that is yes or no, honestly, i would like to test that theory. however, my point is that i know for a fact that no one in my friend list would ever say such horrible things about a black girl being abused. i do not associate with such people. i think it really comes down to the individual. those are really cruel people that you are describing from the comments and i dare to say that they wnuld be inclined to make fun of anyone being abused.
2 years ago·Reply
@Shannonl5, Maybe you'd enjoy this. 👍Good points about reality. 😉
2 years ago·Reply