2 years ago
jordanhamilton
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How Most Guys Deal With A Break Up

Believe it or not, guys have emotions.

They just choose to show them in a different way than women. When it comes to breaking up, women usually go through it. Between the constant memories and trying to hold back the tears to those songs that make you think late at night -- the struggle is all too real. For men, through a woman's eyes it seems as though he bounces right back after a break up and we end up resenting the guy, but in all actuality men go through the struggle too. They just choose to handle their struggle a little differently.
If you two broke up and he ended up cutting all ties with you, don't take it personal. Like they say in the movies, it's him, not you. Guys can be confusing, it's apart of their nature -- and as women, sometimes we just have to deal with it and move on. Sounds harder than you think, but it's doable. At the end of the day, you have to keep in mind that the way a guy handles a breakup has absolutely nothing to do with you -- and trust me, that's a good thing. I know, you're probably confused. We all are, but keep scrolling to see why a man acts the way he does after a breakup.

His Actions Are Not Based On You Or What Was

When a guy acts brand new after a break up, it has absolutely nothing to do with you or the relationship. He is usually acting based on his emotions and the confusion that lies within.

He Hates The Way He Is Acting

If anyone is overthinking, it's him. He feels terrible about the breakup and he is constantly reminded every single time he realizes that he's being a total loser. He missed out on something good and now he is paying for it by overthinking every little move he makes. When you realize that it's him and not you, you'll be able to deal with the breakup so much better.

He Wont Speak To You Anymore

What's done is done and what's meant to be will be. If he cut off all contact, let it be. This is his way of coping. He knows that if he constantly speaks with you in hopes of 'working things out' his feelings will continue to grow and he will continue to regret his actions.

He Wasted No Time Getting In A New Relationship

He's lacking that attention you were giving him and he needs someone else to fill that void so he jumps into a relationship hoping to find what he lost. It's definitely a self-esteem issue and no, women are not the only one's who happen who suffer from low self-esteem.
At the end of the day, keep two things in mind:

What's meant to be will always be and it's him, not you.

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I totally agree with that last sentence @buddyesd you can definitely see things better. I'm with you, I've always been open to being friends with an ex. I would just need some time.
a year ago·Reply
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@buddyesd i guess it all depends on your personal level of empathy. at my level, unless im in a relationship with a person who is too far on the side of narcissism, meaning that they will hurt me again and again without conscience, i wouldnt drop anyone cold. im just being real here. ive had it done to me before a few times and it is traumatic. when someone does that, it really is cold. the only thing that would justify it would be if the one you dropped was as i sdid, too high up on the narcissism spectrum themselves and in that case, they wont suffer very much anyway because they didnt love you they were just using you and will soon replace you.
a year ago·Reply
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a lot of people get treated badly and dont deserve it and others get treated so well and dont deserve it @buddyesd
a year ago·Reply
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I all ways try think of the other person why do something terrible if you don t have to . I hate this topic .....as a guy i have never dumped any one ever i all ways get dumped ..need steroids or something believe in keeping my word having honour ....no girl women or lady has ever not dropped me hard cheated on sms breakups i fear every one of you and my trust is shot.
a year ago·Reply
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No need to fear us. Contrary to popular belief, all women aren't the same. As the same goes for men. @jackhunter
a year ago·Reply