jordanhamilton
2 years ago10,000+ Views
How Most Guys Deal With A Break Up

Believe it or not, guys have emotions.

They just choose to show them in a different way than women. When it comes to breaking up, women usually go through it. Between the constant memories and trying to hold back the tears to those songs that make you think late at night -- the struggle is all too real. For men, through a woman's eyes it seems as though he bounces right back after a break up and we end up resenting the guy, but in all actuality men go through the struggle too. They just choose to handle their struggle a little differently.
If you two broke up and he ended up cutting all ties with you, don't take it personal. Like they say in the movies, it's him, not you. Guys can be confusing, it's apart of their nature -- and as women, sometimes we just have to deal with it and move on. Sounds harder than you think, but it's doable. At the end of the day, you have to keep in mind that the way a guy handles a breakup has absolutely nothing to do with you -- and trust me, that's a good thing. I know, you're probably confused. We all are, but keep scrolling to see why a man acts the way he does after a breakup.

His Actions Are Not Based On You Or What Was

When a guy acts brand new after a break up, it has absolutely nothing to do with you or the relationship. He is usually acting based on his emotions and the confusion that lies within.

He Hates The Way He Is Acting

If anyone is overthinking, it's him. He feels terrible about the breakup and he is constantly reminded every single time he realizes that he's being a total loser. He missed out on something good and now he is paying for it by overthinking every little move he makes. When you realize that it's him and not you, you'll be able to deal with the breakup so much better.

He Wont Speak To You Anymore

What's done is done and what's meant to be will be. If he cut off all contact, let it be. This is his way of coping. He knows that if he constantly speaks with you in hopes of 'working things out' his feelings will continue to grow and he will continue to regret his actions.

He Wasted No Time Getting In A New Relationship

He's lacking that attention you were giving him and he needs someone else to fill that void so he jumps into a relationship hoping to find what he lost. It's definitely a self-esteem issue and no, women are not the only one's who happen who suffer from low self-esteem.
At the end of the day, keep two things in mind:

What's meant to be will always be and it's him, not you.

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At the end of the day, every situation is different and not every guy is like the next. I will agree with you and say that some guys don't have any compassion, but some do. So it can easily go either way.
2 years ago·Reply
I definitely appreciate your honesty and I thank you for checking out this card. It's always great to hear a guys true and real perspective on these topics. I used to be super immature and felt like guys didn't have emotions and were cold hearted, but as I've matured I've come to the realization that we all have feelings, we just choose to show them in different ways. breaking up is hard to do and it comes with consequences sometimes [like you mentioned, cutting off contact], but sometimes it is for the best and the person doesn't even realize that you're looking out for their best interest at the end of the day @InPlainSight
2 years ago·Reply
Great card @jordanhamilton - people deal with break ups in so many different ways, and for so many different reasons. However people behave, it doesn't change the internal anguish and conflicts that they go through. They just deal with the situation in a different way. Sadly, sometimes the way you choose to deal with things hurts the other person in the relationship. I know in the past I had to cut all contact with an ex just because she wouldn't let go of the idea we were going to get back together. I never WANTED to lose contact with her, but every time we had contact, she saw it as a sign of hope. Me breaking contact with her hurt her a lot, but it's what had to happen to help her get over the situation.
2 years ago·Reply
I all ways try think of the other person why do something terrible if you don t have to . I hate this topic .....as a guy i have never dumped any one ever i all ways get dumped ..need steroids or something believe in keeping my word having honour ....no girl women or lady has ever not dropped me hard cheated on sms breakups i fear every one of you and my trust is shot.
2 years ago·Reply
a lot of people get treated badly and dont deserve it and others get treated so well and dont deserve it @buddyesd
2 years ago·Reply
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