Dating isn't easy.
We all know that. Whether you're single and mingling or in a relationship, you're pretty familiar with what I like to call the 'dating woes'. If you've been following my previous cards, than you more than likely know that I've been single for a good five years. Don't get me wrong, single-dom is amazing -- but upon moving to New York, I realized that it was time to use my wings and fly.
With that being said I've gone on a handful of dates. Some better than others, but at the end of the day none led to anything long term. At the end of the day my focus will always be on myself, but living in such a huge city on your own -- it's nice to have that special someone. Overtime I have learned that I shouldn't expect anything when it comes to the dating lifestyle. I'm going with the flow of things and I believe that it has absolutely nothing to do with my timing.
I've gone on dates where the guy paid and I never heard from him again and I've gone on the dates where the guy formally asked me out, but didn't even offer to pay. I have no problem with paying my own way *cues Beyonce's Independent Women*, but if you take the time out to personally ask me on a date -- it's only right that you pay. Ladies, am I right or am I right? Yes, that was meant to be said twice. To make a long story short, the dating scene in New York city is a hit or miss and I've come to realize that.
I guess you have to get in the water first in order to learn how to swim, so I guess the same can be said for dating. It's a win-lose situation and I'm at the point in my life where I'm interested in meeting new people, but I'm also not interested in wasting my time. I will say New York has given me the confidence that I have lacked for years and I appreciate that, but only time will tell where my confidence gets me. In the meantime, I'm going to take each day as it comes and continue to love myself more and more until someone decides to fill that space.