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Maybe it's just me.

I'm beginning to realize that everything that looks good to you, isn't good for you. Take Adam and Eve for example. The apple looked delicious, but Eve knew it was poisonous. What does she do? Eat it anyway and she even went as far as to share it with her husband. I feel like dating and relationships can be the same way.
We often go for what looks good from a distance, but once you get closer and actually start to get to know a person you begin to realize that they're not for you. It shouldn't take the tests of time for me to realize that I am going about this whole 'dating' thing in the wrong manner. If it's not one thing it's another.
I've come to realize that I enjoy the idea of being with someone, but at the end of the day if that someone doesn't measure up to what I feel is the ideal man than it's time for him to hit the road. You can have an amazing education, a car and your own place, but if you don't treat me with the utmost amount of respect than it's just not going to work.
I'm fast learner when it comes to certain things, but dating just doesn't seem to be one of them. I know I didn't move a couple states away to find love and I believe that when the time is right that it will happen, but when you're living in a huge city and all you see is couples upon couples -- what else do you expect?
People tell me to get out more, I do and while doing so I'm left walking the streets with tunes of Stevie Wonder playing in the back of my head.
My phone vibrates, it's him.
That guy with the amazing education and occupation, good looks and a bright life ahead of him, but he lacks compassion, respect and so much more.
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if you learn from your mistakes, then congratulations you are on the right way
@jordanhamilton i had the same problem. unfortunately, i dont fall for the right kind of guys either. but one time, i actually fell for the wrong guy with all the right reasons and it was not for a feeling or something ideal that i thought he was. he was none of the things that i would put on my list other than handsome. but other than that, i knew he wasnt the best guy but something just tugged at my heart from deep within him and i cared so much. he turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life. but he was also the source of the greatest love i have ever known. i wouldnt have ever made a list that includes the silent treatment, deception, manipulation and severe emotional abuse. but yet still, i truly cared for him. there is not another man that i ever could have loved that much. and i still believe that no matter how ideal or good a man may be, he cant replace that love.
I think we've all experienced that specific kind of love at some point, at least I have and it has taught me a lot about myself along the way. Thanks for sharing @MelissaMae
Thank you for the card @jordanhamilton. And for yours & everyone's genuine words. And oh my gosh @MelissaMae. I really wish what you wrote didn't make sense to me, but unfortunately I can relate exactly & understand it perfectly. Love & light to you amazing bunch of beautiful souls. Definitely helps knowing you're all somewhere out there. xx
You are very welcome! and thank you for taking the time out to read it. I am so glad that we all come from different walks of life, but all happen to be able to relate @MissB82