Arellano1052
2 years ago5,000+ Views
My New Years Resolutions
I'm definitely not one for this kind of thing. I'm the kind of person where one random day, I'll flip a switch, do a 72 degree turn and take off running in that new direction. I don't necessarily believe that you should wait for an exact day to change. Why would you torture yourself like that? Just change when you've finally had enough or when you've become bored and complacent with yourself! Well, that killed the mood, right? My apologies haha Saying that, I understand the significance of the "new year, new me". It IS a refreshing and cleansing feeling to finally be back on January 1st. It also allows you an almost direct comparison to where you were last year, telling you how far you have (or haven't lol) come. Which is the most useful thing about a new year, in my opinion! My birthday is towards the end of the year, so I'm still going to be 20 for another 9 3/4 (Woo, Harry Potter reference! Score! ^.^) months. @LizArnone, to my knowledge, started this challenge, and @AlloBaber (I almost used your old name haha) tagged me. So, without further ado, I shall attempt this.
Travel more. I'm a kid still. At 20, I still have the rest of my life ahead of me. The trouble is, I don't know how much time that gives me. There's so much I haven't seen, so much I haven't done, and so much time I've taken for granted. So, I want to plan and execute one trip for every month. I think with my funds and vehicular capabilities, that is manageable. Plus, I love sightseeing and having solitary time away from my comfort zone. New foods, different personalities, different smells... All great things.
Workout more. I only do Cardio two times a week with light lifting... Want to know something crazy? I used to have 17.5" biceps. I used to have 4-6% body fat. I used to work out around 20 hours a week for two years. My fastest mile time is 4:48. Now? I'm looking at 158 pounds, β‰ˆ10% body fat, workout 5 hours a week, and run a 6:54 mile. I've slowed down so much and gotten a lot smaller... Buuut, I am about half a foot taller (still only 5'9"-5'10" depending where I measure, how hot it is outside, if I stretched beforehand... Lmao the struggle of being half Mexican and half Filipino ;-;)
Um... I am a LoveBug. And I'm a seriously hopeless romantic and I will do anything and everything to make somebody I care about happy and safe. But, I need to dial this back a bit. Quite a bit, actually. I'm clear headed and logical about practically everything else in my life. I know where I'm going, I know what I'm doing and I know what I need to do to get there. I set goals and I strive achieve them. But not with relationships. I need to stop giving so much effort to people I'm romantically involved with, including "friends". It's unhealthy. And I'm tired of wasting my time. Because there's a point where it IS a waste, and I like to wave at that sign as I sprint by it. Since this is related, I'll just put it in the same section. I need to stop allowing narcissists into my life. I'm an empath and I feel the need to fix people. And I will, regardless of the toll it takes on me. In other words, I'm quite the juicy prospect to narcissists. And this year, two have found me. And I'm consciously, after months, cutting off the second one. Her games no longer affect me, her repeated attempts at playing victim and villainizing me to get me to apologize and go back to her aren't working anymore. Her constant, sly berating no longer makes my existence feel pointless. My life no longer revolves around her and making her happy. Even after all that, a part of me still feels quite saddened and empty without her, but, I know she's unhealthy and detrimental. So, the logical mind will finally take over after 6 months of being repressed by emotions. And good riddance! So, new years resolution? Fuck love. No, I'm kidding lol Stop giving so much? Set, and stand by, clear boundaries? I don't know how to word this one.
Don't miss opportunities because I'm too much of a..... I shouldn't finish that lmfao "Because I'm too cautious". Yes, that's what I meant! This is a whole lifetime thing that I have slowly been toeing the line sporadically. I think about the consequences instead of the possible benefits. I don't make "moves" on women when they flirt with me. I need to start going out and meeting people. Savannah, I'm sorry. Please come back and let me take you out for a coffee, so we can discuss in detail how much of an idiot I am for not asking you out the second you walked into my life two months ago. Hahaha
Last one I'll share is to figure out what the heck to do with my hair!
I'm horrible with remembering the names of the people I want to tag, so I'll do that in the comments lol @ButterflyBlu Your turn, ma'am ;D <3
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Okay, I'm tagging these people to partake in this challenge: @nicolejb @danidee @shannonl5 @jordanhamilton @RosePark @MelanieMKerr @MarySEW @JPBenedetto @alywoah and @Ascangarello if you've already done it, I apologize! I'll be heading over to your profiles shortly! And I know some of you have already been tagged, this is me adding my voice to the calling for your card!
2 years agoΒ·Reply
Dude, your hair is rad though!!! And I love whenever you write cards. This one is awesome too. Like, 4:48 mile is impossible for me because I am horrible at running. If I can get a mile in under 10 minutes, it's a good day. (IN MY DEFENSE, I HAVE BAD KNEES.)
2 years agoΒ·Reply
@shannonl5 Hahaha That IS late! πŸ˜‚ I'm curious, though. Do you stick by yours? Or are you one of us, "There's always next year!" kind of people? Lol @TessStevens It's what I was aiming for, but I didn't know if I did a decent job of it. I'm glad it was accomplished and recognized! Thank you for saying that ^.^ It means a lot! =) @nicolejb Why was it funny? Haha Just because it was random and not depressingly serious? XD πŸ˜‚πŸ˜œ and thank you... Two of them will be very difficult, but you are quite correct, they're improvements and achievable, and I'll learn so much more about myself as I get further and further out of my shell.
2 years agoΒ·Reply
@Arellano1052 - You are just pure sunshine! :)
2 years agoΒ·Reply
@Arellano1052 omg. You are so one of my favorite people in the whole wide world. You are endearing. And emotional. And caring. It's all a huge mish-mash of charm and it's why I love you as much as I do. I see so many things in this card that make me happy. <3 For the record, I'm super grateful that you're a romantic. Your wisdom and guidance have been super useful and appreciated, sir. <3 For real. But, yes, I agree: narcissists need to take a hike. *Hugs* (Speaking of which... I need to message you. We kicked ass this weekend and I have wisdom to pass on to you.) I'll try to do the challenge, but be warned, I totally SUCK at these things. (Resolutions.) I'll have to think about it. πŸ€” In closing, my padawan, I will teach you how to do a manly bun of buns. Asses shall be kicketh.
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