I remember New Year's day of 2015 being a little bit foggy. Hungover, I tried to rationalize my bad choices. I tried to accept the year of 2014 for what it was: a God damn disaster.
I've never been one for resolutions. And in the anger of the morning I decided to take my frustrations out on the keys.
I was tagged by @alywoah to talk about my resolutions. Instead, I thought it would be interesting to provide this perspective. With fear and loathing, here are my thoughts on New Year's resolutions.
The following is a foggy rant written by a 22 year old terrified of leaving college. But most of it still rings true today. If you're the kind of person that can't get behind resolutions, read on.
The morning light of New Year’s Day cuts through the curtains of my room in Athens, Ohio. The parties of a year not so far removed still ring in the ears of the collegiate celebrators. They wake up with hangovers and misplaced memories.
The drinks were poured, the clock struck 12 and the twenty-somethings became another year older, not necessarily wiser. In hindsight most will learn that they spent more time taking pictures of themselves and poaching likes than living. 2014 was declared “the year of the selfie” what the hell is that?
All anyone wants for the New Year is something new. It doesn't matter what it is or what it looks like.
The word new implies that everything before it is old, obsolete. It’s not like this concept is excluded from the New Year. You’re ultimately telling yourself that somehow this one’s going to be different. If you wake up in 2015 with the same problems, the same body, the same mind where’s the evolution?
Evolution doesn’t just suddenly occur. It happens over long periods of time. Just because today is January 1st of 2015 doesn’t mean that 2014 didn’t happen. January 1st might as well be the 12th of Never. People don’t suddenly change because they write down a wish on a slip of paper. And everyone knows that wishes rarely come true.
If you put all of your stake in a New Year's resolution, then you will never change.
However, the first day of the New Year seems to be a catalyst for most. Oh…since today is January 1st I’ll go to the gym, start eating healthy and get back into things I like doing. I've done it, you've done it, we've all done it. It's okay.
Logic based on a specific day of the year changing your life is flawed. Making promises in any capacity sets you up for failure. It doesn’t even matter where the intention is placed. Promises are dreams that are lucid at first, but then fade into the night.
You can instead just do what you say you’re going to do. No promises.
Promises are for people who don’t take action. If the act of promising would somehow fix the odds against inevitable failure.
We don’t rely on resolutions or wishes or promises in times of crisis or sadness. We act, we change the narrative.
Slips of papers in jars and wishing on the clock sound charming like a Pinterest board filled with cute DIY’s but it requires you to be inactive.
It requires you to forget the year and put all your eggs into a basket that forbids them to hatch.
So instead of living with the expectation that once the clock strikes midnight we’ll be different, we should start to make a difference ourselves.
Though most of us may never change the world our little worlds can change if we let them.
In 2015 the masses will expect something to change. People will expect to lose weight, get married, make more money or even change the world. The truth is, when you get down to it nothing will change unless you change it. The year, or the day or the way the wind blows will not make you a better person.
It will not correct the character flaws that have been with you since birth. It will not lose the weight for you or get you a better job. Only you can do that. Taking responsibility is a mighty tall order, but once you do you’ll realize that New Year’s Resolutions are for suckers, and out there, in the world where actions speak louder than promises; there’s something more.
What do you think? Are you a resolution keeping kind of person? Or do you prefer to let things happen on their own?
Regardless of what you think, I hope all of you have a happy, healthy and incredible New Year, filled with new opportunities and a better life. XX