Here, the desire for revenge is clearly understood by anyone who has the ability to or the willingness to empathize. But the narcissists friends and family do not care what he did to you, or how it affected you. they will defend him and blame you. He does not surround himself with empathetic people who have a heart to stand up for the abused. That would not serve his purpose. He instead, surrounds himself with people who will not hold him accountable for his actions. That's not hard to find in this day and age.