These days I find myself meeting new men that sometimes makes me wonder if he will be an improved version from my previous him. So, my best friend made an observation about my scope being too narrow. She asked the question “How can you know he is the one that you want to anchor if you have no one else to compare?” My instant answer to that question started with the letter “w” and it’s definitely not a good word people want to be related to. Standing strong with my view of not dating/seeing several people at once, one year passed with “me focusing on my career”. Last summer, it started to rain and it poured. After endless introductions “meet a friend of my friend” I found myself seeing 3 different men each with his respectively intriguing qualities. Every date, hang out I got to see their corks, table manners and unconscious habits. After incredible multi-tasking and juggling different conversations within a period of 2 months, I finally had to cave in to my friend, agreeing with her theory that monogamy can only be reached after carefully comparing the players. This also came with a confident “I told you” gaze from her, boosting her relationship-advisory’s self-esteem. Having tasted the multi-player experience, it made me wonder if there were any people who had the same experience like mine, if so, with how many? Have you ever had this pre-monogamy period where you tested the waters with several players? What do thy Vinglers say about this?!