Hey Lovebugs! It's Community Question Tuesday again~ ^.^
If anyone else would like to help answer a question in the future, be sure to let me know :)
So here's this week's question:
Q: How do you say goodbye to the person who means so much to you without hurting him/her?
A: There's a reason they say breaking up is hard to do.
First of all, thanks for asking your question, and I'm sorry you've been put in this difficult position! It's never fun to feel like you have to be the one to break someone's heart. :(
I've been in this position before, and sadly, I think you have to accept the fact that, yes, you're going to hurt them. At least a little bit. They might only be a tiny bit hurt, or they might be utterly heartbroken. But that's more on them than on you. You have to do what you have to do, and if breaking up is right for you, than the sad truth is – it's right for both of you.
I agree with @NerukaWong, who says that when you know it's time to break up, don't put it off. Remember the reason you wanted to break up in the first place, and let that motivate you to end the relationship. If you keep dating someone just because you're afraid to hurt them, I promise it's going to hurt all the more when you break up with them down the line. Best to rip off the bandaid fast and soon.
My girl @Humairaa had a great point – if you have a good reason for breaking up, which I'm sure you do (I often think that once your doubts go past a certain point, it's a sign that a breakup is inevitable) then in the long run, it's actually going to be BETTER for both of you. Think about it, there's gotta be someone perfect for you out there – and that means there's someone out there that's perfect for them too. If you guys stay together, then that's keeping both of you from finding your soulmates.
So make it clear to your person WHY you're breaking up. It's so much harder when you don't know the reason why someone left you.
Do it lovingly, keeping their feelings in mind, but being firm and clear at the same time. Don't leave them hanging on just because you're afraid to end things decisively. Be okay with causing them a little bit of pain, because it's gonna happen, but as long as you're honest, open, and sensitive, I know everything will be okay. <3
I have faith in you!!!
Look out for next Tuesday's community question, Lovebugs :) and if you have one, remember to submit it here!