I will exit 2015 proud of all of my accomplishments and my growth as a person. This year was quite muddled with unexpected deaths, the frenzy of finding a place that'll kick start my career, brief relationships, wild nights partying in New York City, and living out of 2 suitcases for half the year. It was a bumpy ride, but I was able to learn from it.
Here's What I Learned:
1) Everything Happens For A Reason
Maybe it isn't realistic to believe in this sort of thing, but I do. And I always have. Right before I left New York City, I received a call that my grandma who I haven't seen in a few years wanted to see me. The day I went to see her at the hospital, I learned she was very sick. Nobody knew I was coming, but her. But my whole family ended up showing up. It was sort of a family reunion at the hospital.
A few days later, she passed away. I was in the right place at the right time because even though I had been bouncing around, I was able to see her for the few days when I was briefly in town. Of course I don't want her gone. But I do feel very grateful that I was able to see her face one last time. Laugh with her, talk with her, hug her, kiss her, be with her.
2) I Am In Charge of How I Want To Be Treated
This isn't the year that taught me the standards I should set, but the year that tested that. I have always taught myself that the treatment I receive from others (whether that's from a boyfriend, co-worker, family member, or superior) should be the kind of treatment I want to experience. I am in charge of how I want people to treat me -- and I am happy that I have learned how to speak up, take charge, and put my foot down.
I think this is a highly important skill to have. When you set the standards of how you expect to be treated, it will be very difficult for others to penetrate those standards. They may test it, but it won't be so easy for them to actually take control. And walking away from ill-treatment will become easier, and easier.
Learn it, guys!
3) This Is MY Life
At the very end of it, I am responsible for my life. This includes my mental health, my happiness, and what is important to me. It's okay to give myself a break. It's okay to see my family and push everything else aside. It's okay for me to sever toxic friendships, build new ones, and live a quality life.
I only have one life to live, and I am in charge of making this the greatest fucking life ever.