He bends down and your heart drops.
It turns out his shoe lace just happened to be untied. *sigh* You've been together for almost a decade and he has yet to pop the question. You sit contemplating what the issue might be. 'Is he saving his coins for the best ring possible?' 'Do I need to switch up my look in order for him to actually takes me serious?' 'Should I start cooking more?' Relax and stop stressing yourself. It can be hard waiting around for a ring when all you see on social media is some of your closest friends being asked for their hand in marriage. Patience is a virtue, but how long should one woman wait around? It all depends how long you plan on waiting.
If he's the one and you know he's the one, than he's worth the wait and so are you. What's the rush on commitment anyway? The title? The idea of being someone's wife? Having the pleasure of going dress shopping? Okay, maybe all of the above. If he loves you, he will ask you. No worries. You don't have to wait around forever, but maybe forever is sooner than you think. Keep a look out for the signs, according to Cosmopolitan these ladies did and he put a ring on it -- keep scrolling to find out if the signs match up.
"Tim and I had talked about getting married; I think that's necessary. The terrible proposal videos you seen on YouTube where the girl says no? Yeah, they probably never talked about marriage before. We practically set a wedding date before it happened and went ring shopping together. And then he accidentally texted me about proposing; it was meant to go to a friend. The text made it seem like he would propose before he left for a trip that summer, so every day before then I wondered, 'Is this it?!' But he didn't propose before his trip. The day he did, I hung out with my friend Amanda before going to take pictures of my boyfriend's band playing at our church. She was really serious about leaving my apartment on time, and I should've been suspicious because she's late to everything! When we got to the church, I could hear Tim playing our song, 'The Sun and the Moon' by Mae. He came off the stage and asked me to marry him, and we celebrated with dinner at Kerbey Lane." —Kiera, 22
"Before a trip to New York, we were talking with some friends, he started acting kinda weird ... I found out later that he had told all my friends he was going to propose, but when I got suspicious, they shot me down and said, 'No, he's going to wait until you graduate.' A month before the trip, I overheard him say, "I'm gonna do it on New Year's." I left the room because I didn't want to spoil anything. A bit later, I took a promise ring he had given me to get fixed, and he acted all sad that I wouldn't have it in New York. That threw me off the trail — why would he be sad about me not having my promise ring if he was going to give me a bigger ring, anyway? We went to New York and were in Times Square for New Year's Eve, but being from Texas, we froze our butts off and I wanted to go home. We left our friends in Times Square and took the subway back to our crappy little Airbnb in Williamsburg. I wanted to go to sleep right away, but he said we had to wait up until midnight. Around 11:30, he started getting all shaky and got down on a knee and pulled a ring out of his pocket." —Haley, 23
"I was definitely suspicious. The day he bought the ring (I figured out later), he acted really strangely — like weirdly excited and happy for not reason at all. Almost like he was drunk. He left his email open on my computer, and I accidentally saw a picture of the ring that he sent to his sister. I had no idea when he was going to ask, though. He tricked me into climbing up to the 360 Bridge Overlook in Austin, where he had a friend of ours hidden to take pictures of me from that day. I cried a lot. Lots and lots of ugly crying. I don't think there's one decent picture of me from that day. We drove to our parents' house after, where all our friends were waiting at a surprise party. Overall very cheesy and lovely." —Chelsey, 27
"I'm engaged but I had no fucking idea, literally zero. I thought David was morally opposed to engagement rings and didn't want to think about marriage for at least a year. Which is funny, because he actually asked me what he thinks one should spend on a ring, what shape diamond I like, and arranged for his parents to come into town from across the country and meet my parents for bunch. Still, I was ~*ClUeLeSs~*. He's so suave, I think I'll marry him." — Elizabeth, 29
"I had an inkling about four days in advance because he told me to save Friday night for date night and to 'wear something nice.' Our dates are usually to dive karaoke bars, so telling me to dress nice was super suspicious. I don't think he'd ever said that to me before or since, and we've been together six years. I actually got nervous he was going to propose at a fancy restaurant, which would be my nightmare proposal. I gave myself a fresh manicure on Thursday night, just in case. He did propose that Friday, but I was still completely surprised because he disguised the whole thing as a work assignment with my boss in the middle of the afternoon. Even after he proposed, I was like, 'But I'm supposed to be meeting someone for work...?' And it was not a fancy restaurant proposal! Whew." —Claire, 29
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