So I'm 26 (almost). I'm still attending college. I'm single. I hate the "sympathy" I get from people about both of those things. School is rough for me and I am not proud of being in school for so long but drawing attention to it does not help motivation. No, I'm not trying to be a professional student. No I don't enjoy going to school and I'm not proud of the failures I've had in it so far. But I'm still trying and still moving forward with it. Maybe I'm stubborn who knows? But don't mock or question it because that doesn't make things easier for the people who struggle in school like I do. The same goes for me being single. In fact, it's worse. I had a 4 year relationship blow up on me and then tried to force another one after and that blew up too. Do I necessarily love being single? Hell no! But I despise being judged for it. I'm looking but not by loitering in bars or clubs. I don't have time for that crap. I've learned my flaws and am working through them to be the better October. I post this because there have been many single related posts and the majority I've seen are single by choice. Good for them! They should be and I used to be. But the "oh don't worry you'll find someone someday", the " there's someone for you out there", and the "why wouldn't someone want to date you?" are all such a drain. It's just drawing attention to what I already know everyday and it does suck but it also sounds like I'm being judged for being single. I'm aware I'm single. There's parts of single life I enjoy. There are more that I don't but your "encouragement" isn't fixing anything; it just makes those who are single not by choice feel worse. There, whiney rant over. Just had to get it out and Vingle is the better place for me to do so.