AlloBaber
2 years ago10,000+ Views

It’s nobody else’s question but mine today, folks.

Have any of you guys ever tried to do the whole distance thing? I’m in the process right now, and I’ve gotta say... it’s not a ton of fun. Anybody who’s ever done distance can tell you that, I guess.
For me, it’s a special kind of difficulty. The kind that makes me feel sort of wobbly within the relationship. Not as secure in everything as I'd like to be. Does that make sense? I mean, we started long distance, and have spent about two weeks together, total, since we started dating.
It’s weird! To be so crazy about someone, and spend so much time thinking about them, and yet never see them in person. It’s like dating an idea or a voice or an image, instead of a human.

My question is basically this: how can I make long distance more tolerable?

Can you guys suggest any strategies to make being in a long distance relationship easier?

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My personal opinion is don't. More than an hour or two away is pushing it. The only way to make one work, is if it's an established relationship, and if there is a plan for one, or the other, to eventually move. There's just too much crap involved. You can't do stuff on the weekends together. You can't be there for one another if you're having a bad day. You can't pass out on the couch together. You're always thinking about how close they may be getting with friends or co-workers of the opposite sex. And if you're an emotionally needy person, the best thing to do is to just break things off. It's going to be real torture for you.
2 years ago·Reply
Luckily @TerrellHenry there is a plan. I don't have too long to get through before we're in the same city again. But it's really tough in the meantime. Thanks @LisaMarissa @Kourtland @buddyesd @EasternShell @alywoah @Chrisingularis I really value everyone's advice. Especially Chris's creepy body bag idea hahaha. I do wish I had one of his sweaters or something to snuggle up in... We FaceTime or call every night, which I really like. It helps me feel closer to him, and more involved in his life. But it's still so tough. I miss things like holding hands and snuggling. And kissing. DAMN IT I miss kissing him so bad. Sigh. Little surprises definitely help - he got me the cutest bday present and as I think you guys all saw, wrote me a sweet card... He's not on Vingle much but once in a while he'll show up and surprise me :) it's nice. Maybe I'll try writing him a hand written letter. That always helps :) and I love the idea of FaceTiming while we do a similar activity !! It'll be like going on a date :)
2 years ago·Reply
I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my bf. we got separated by distance because I went to college and he stay back in my town which is about 2 hours away. neither of us have a license, let alone a car, so sometimes we will go weeks without seeing each other. he was just here visiting this weekend and when he left, I felt so alone again. I miss him so much. I wish things didn't have to be this way. one thing we always do is that we facetime each other when we want to say goodnight. that way we always get to see each other at least once a day.
2 years ago·Reply
Having a long distance relationship is very hard but if you both work hard and put in enough time it might work out. I was in a long distance with my bf for 7 months. We were together for 4 months before that. I met him in my hometown we were going to college together but he wanted to go back home and go to school in his hometown. If course I wanted him to do whats best for him. It was the hardest thing I ever went through. It made it worst when we would visit each other and stay for the weekend and then had to leave each other again. Its not for everyone but if you both have a goal in mind then be in good spirits about it even though it sucks sometimes. Hang in there! How we kept our relationship alive was through Skype, texting, cute couple apps through android , and since we were a gaming couple we also played online together on ps4. I just moved to his hometown and got a apartment with him about 2 months ago and we are doing great 😊 We still game together. I feel like being long distance made us appreciate each other more and was able to get to know each other a lot more than it would if we didn't go through that.
2 years ago·Reply
Ive done so many long distance relationships...idk y it always happened for me to have in a situation like that..i never learned my lesson of being hurt.Love was there but the longing as time passed by it got harder n harder. I recorded our phone convos n i listened to it n read our texts msgs. each time i miss him n it gave me some comfort..but still hard. If there is another option i would never enter a long distance reationship..no one wants to cheat.Love is best to be cherished together.Distance just makes d relationship longer with d absence of so many things to be hold into...If u guys really love each other..HOLD INTO IT TIGHTLY N GOODLUCK:)
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