AlloBaber
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I was browsing some articles on love (because I read up on this stuff) and found one called "There Is No Gray Area: He Is Either Obsessed With You Or He DGAF." I was a little dumbfounded, because that's... kind of an insane thing to say. Here's an excerpt:

"Guys are never playing hard-to-get or being aloof to get you interested. He isn’t ghosting you because he’s coy; he’s ghosting you because he doesn’t want to deal with telling you he’s over it. But trust me, he’s over it.
This sucks to hear. It blows. I know that. There have been plenty of times in my sordid past when I have convinced myself that a guy is going to come around, stop treating me like second-class garbage and be a good boyfriend...
What you may perceive as some kind of game, some variety of mixed signals, is not what you think it is. Those confusing signals are actually the CLEAREST signal of all: he’s not that into you. He doesn’t care. He doesn’t. He does not.
If he’s not calling you his girlfriend, it’s because he doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend. If he’s not committing, it’s because he doesn’t see you as worthy of a commitment. If he’s distant, it’s because he doesn’t care enough."

Is this a real thing?!? I'd love to hear what you guys think.

You can read it in full here if you want to, but I think you probably can get the picture from the above chunk.
I mean, seriously??? Guys NEVER send any sort of mixed signal?!
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@AlloBaber It's not always black and white...there are at least 50 shades of grey
If a guy treats you like crap but won't end the relationship, you're a status symbol, not a girlfriend. If he's being coy, it's because he feels like he's doing all the work and wants you to put some effort into him. Men are just as emotional as women, they just hide it better. It's all grey area in relationships, because it needs some semblance of balance.
@poelight What you're saying makes sense. I think some girls should definitely stop making excuses for guys who are pulling away and (in my opinion) clearly not interested. But especially that line "If he’s not committing, it’s because he doesn’t see you as worthy of a commitment," – that's like the craziest part of the whole thing to me. Way back when, I thought my boyfriend didn't want to commit to me, because he wasn't asking me to date him. But it turns out he was just waiting until he could ask me in person (we were long distance friends-who-just-happen-to-be-in-love-with-each-other). So really, I don't think you can make hard and fast rules like this.
I think that the title is a bit harsh. Though it's not completely true they are somewhat on to something. Guys will for the most part send the mix signals in the beginning if they are going to send any. then once he has gotten whatever it is he may want whether it be money, sex,or just company during a separation the truth comes out. if he becomes distant then that's a red flag. fewer calls and visits red flag. no longer answering text. red flag. constant excuses red flag. women would possibly suffer a little less heart ache if they realized this in my opinion.
being direct and straight to the point and honest is mixed signals and let's not be naive MEN. Because when all is said and done we could just be Honest and Straight Forward to the point. But like a Women, it's up to the Man unto pick up those pieces and read His situation just like it is for the Women. So it goes BOTH WAYS EVERONE!
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