shannonl5
2 years ago1,000+ Views
The Avengers Explain Why She Ignored Your Message

They've assembled to explain where you went wrong.

Online dating definitely has its pros and cons. On the one hand, you don't have to deal with rejection in person, and you can tell pretty soon if you click with somebody. On the other hand, it's a lot more difficult to test the waters when you don't have body language and nonverbal cues to work with. That's where the Avengers come in. See, in addition to saving the day, they're also down to save you a lot of frustration when it comes to dating. You can learn from their advice (or in some cases, their mistakes) and start using online dating to get what you want- instead of a headache.

You're needy.

Not "you come off as needy"- you ARE. If the way you message someone makes them have to do all the work to keep the conversation going, it lets them know that you need them to hold your hand through the entire process. Nobody wants to do all the work for you, sorry.

What do do:

Don't just say "hey", "hi", or anything else that's one-syllable. "I noticed you liked The Dark Knight, what do you think about Batman Vs. Superman", "I see you're really passionate about cooking, where did you learn", or "I love to hike too, have you been to the new trail yet"- Give her something to respond to. Show her what makes you interesting! They say it takes two to tango and that's absolutely true of conversation. If you're not willing to put in the effort to chat, why do you think she will?

You clearly didn't read her profile.

You're looking for a quick hookup and she's stated that she wants to wait for marriage. You want a 'quiet nights in'-type museum buddy and she wants to party. Why are you wasting her time (and yours) when there are so many other people out there?

What to do:

Sure, in some ways online dating is a numbers game. The more messages you send out, the more likely you are to get a response. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't put in the effort to find someone looking for what you have to offer. When you don't, you really under-value yourself. You wouldn't try to sell amazing Yankees tickets to a Red Sox fan, so why are you pitching yourself to people looking for something else? It's their loss.

You're asking for nudes.

This is one of those head-scratchers because it doesn't seem like it works very often? All it really does is make girls delete their profiles. Which seems like the opposite of what everyone wants.

What to do:

How would you feel if a random stranger walked up to you and demanded pictures of your bare ass? Did you cringe? That's how women feel when you do this. You increase your chances of getting blocked (and banned), and you don't end up seeing any boobs. Go to PornHub like everyone else. If you can online date, I promise you that you can find pictures of boobs.

She's busy.

Yup. Sometimes girls just forget about their profile. Or they met someone and are waiting to see how it goes before they delete it. Maybe she's not seeing anyone, but she's suddenly too busy. Or like yours truly, they forget their password for a month. (Cue an embarrassed trombone noise?)

What to do:

If you've sent a message or two already and haven't gotten a response, why waste the effort to keep contacting them? Maybe the timing isn't right, maybe she's not interested. Whatever the reason is, it's not actually important. YOU are important, and so is your time. Forget her and move on.

You've dated one of her friends.

Or vice-versa! Friends have a lot of stuff in common, and sometimes that includes their taste in guys. Whether it was an amicable parting of ways or a nasty breakup, some people feel weird about dating a friend's ex. Or an ex's friend.

What to do:

Again, you gotta move on. Rejection happens to all of us and it totally sucks, but that's the reality of dating. Whether you got ignored or got a hard "no", there's no good reason to try to argue someone into a date with you. Keep looking for somebody that won't be a waste of time to pursue.

Some last words of advice:

Dating isn't easy. Trust me when I tell you that you're not the only one struggling (just look at Captain America, he probably hasn't had a real date since 1945). But that's no reason to give up on yourself! It may take some time, and a lot of trial-and-error, but that's what love is. It's hard work and determination. And WE BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
4 comments
Hmm. Sound advice. I present you with: ONE MORE LIKE 👍
2 years ago·Reply
@MajahnNelson haha just don't throw your phone and shout "ANOTHER" XD
2 years ago·Reply
@shannonl5 TOO LATE! ANOTHER! XD
2 years ago·Reply
@MajahnNelson hahahahah I'll do my best friend
2 years ago·Reply
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