Have you heard of the phrase “Put yourself in the other man’s shoes?” after hearing a political or social gathering? It’s quite the fit if we can find the right size. It’s amazing how we humans can have debates over the big stuff by cursing, yelling, sighing, and eventually dismissing the true nature of a problem. But it’s rare to see the emotional correctness whenever we’re not busy working with other people.
For example, a lot of the folks I met in my life have always asked me the same questions over and over again, “How come you’re so quiet?” “Why are so agitated?” Usually I come up with a sarcastic answer that either confuses or annoys them because I never express the same answers I give, not because I’ve said it a dozen times over, but because I’m in a zone of my own intellectual space that most cannot grasp. It’s a big subject and the same goes to other deep, controversial stuff (the internet, consumerism, politics, ect.), but regarding the small topics (pets, dating, life, ect.) I can give a warmly conversation of how I see them without harsh criticism. That’s where the whole concept of emotional correctness comes in. One of the things I talk about and work on the most is writing. I have a huge imagination, and the stories I write astonishes and blows people’s minds (not literally of course. I don’t want to clean up the mess left behind). Some folks may see someone based on their appearance and attitude and first think that they are up to no good, but on the inside their perspective of the world around them can be quite an interesting feat.
Can they possibly change the fundamentals of a subject that may upset others? Maybe. Does this mean they should be shunned for their beliefs forever? Of course not. If you watch the news or television in general there is a lot of ridicule of all major kinds of humans that can be toxic. But we choose to be toxic and create verbal assaults that can cause harm, yet actually thinking about what a man or woman or child does during a day off can be unheard of, and there might be some good stuff floating about, and we as humans can explore different ideas from time to time and we can agree or disagree.
So next time you meet with a stranger, or a coworker who may seem a bit on edge, just remember that they may not always be on edge. They have a happy place they think about a lot and even though you may not spend much of your time with them, it’s best to understand where they’re coming from, and occasionally chatting with them about anything, anything at all, can be refreshing.