I get this all the time. I write cards about sexual assault, rape culture, how women are afraid to do simple things such as walk home alone or wear short skirts and a "not all men" comment always appears. And it's ok!! I love the conversation, I love the thirst for opinions and knowledge but I think it's time I settle this now. #NotAllMen needs to fucking stop.
When you say "not all men" you are, in essence, telling women that because not every single man out there will rape, her story should not be shouted from the rooftops. When you say not all men you think that we women are accusing ALL MEN of being predators. Do you not think we deserve more credit then that? When you say "not all men" you are choosing to bring a very important and serious issue to the focal point of people who ARE NOT INVOLVED in the issue. When we talk about rape, when we talk about assault, when we talk about cat calling we are not talking about the men who do not do it! When you say "not all men" I want to scream. Because yes, we all know that you might not be one of the violent, aggressive, hatful men that stalk and harm women for sport; but I will NOT give you praise for being a decent human being.
Answer me this, when a man says that he was attacked, raped, assaulted, do you ever EVER hear someone say; "Well not all women?"