nicolejb
2 years ago10,000+ Views
Q: How Do I Win Back My Ex?
One of my Vingler friends is having a hard time with winning back a certain someone in her life, so I reached out to some other Vinglers for advice on how to help someone that wants to win back their ex. I added some of my own points, and voila, friendly advice for you!

Make sure it's REALLY what you want

Going back to someone when you broke up is a big deal. It means opening up hearts again, and it's best to know that you are TOTALLY in. Otherwise you could open wounds later on.

Make sure they haven't moved on

They have a new gf and you are trying to get back with them? Not going to fly. Try asking them about their life now and see how things are going. It might not be a bad idea for you to find out more about your ex and what they've s been doing since they broke up. This might help you have a better understanding of where they are at.

Try to be friends first

Definitely start talking as friends first, then build and see if they both are interested in getting into a relationship. This will help mend those broken hearts and see if the chemistry is still there;)

If all is a go - Communicate it clearly!

Explain why it didn't work before and why you think it'll work now. If it was your mistake, make sure they know that too! It can be something as simple as:
"hey, *insert name* I'm sorry I broke up with you. I got busy with so much stuff and it was making me stress. I didn't want you to worry nor stress you put as well. I miss you and I want to be with you. Will you take me back?" - advice from: @altiar620al
Or even
"Baby come back. Cuz all I need is you." - ;) advice from: @momattheword
And there you go. It's that easy!
But lastly, remember whatever happens you are still awesome and deserve someone who wants you:)
Thanks to the advice team for helping me on this!!

What else would you do to get back your ex?

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Yeah it seems like you all had the same idea about the exboyfriend... @Bobs @haley1999bolen @Heartofgold35 @atmi that we shouldn't go back to the ex. Maybe we should make something like -- reasons why NOT to get back to your ex. Thank you @RitikaDas :)
2 years agoReply
My advice for getting an ex back? Space and time. Have you ever played a video game that was kicking your ass? No matter how hard you try to beat this one boss or stage, you keep loosing. The more you lose, the more you get frustrated. So you drop it and move on to other things. A month or two later, you come back to it, and breeze right through it. That's because it's not stressing you out now, and your head is clear. Sometimes it's the same with an ex. Sometimes you just need to chill for a bit and let the tension of the situation die down. Then go and initiate communication with your ex.
2 years agoReply
@ThePervySage you have the best way of relating everything!! yeah and sometimes you have to wait until the boss is super chill, then approach them. I think it's that way with any breakup really, just give it time and try to mend things as they come
2 years agoReply
@nicolejb.. hi .. this is my first time commenting ..couldn't do it before.. for this my advice. . DON'T. ..do it.. Remember why you guys broke up in the first place. it will happen again.. Just MOVE ON!! there are more people further. .lol..
2 years agoReply
i got back with an ex and made things better by just taking the 100% blame for it all. guys im talking to you even if it makes you look like the bad guy take full ownership of all the faults it works everytime.
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