nicolejb
2 years ago10,000+ Views
One of my Vingler friends is having a hard time with winning back a certain someone in her life, so I reached out to some other Vinglers for advice on how to help someone that wants to win back their ex. I added some of my own points, and voila, friendly advice for you!

Make sure it's REALLY what you want

Going back to someone when you broke up is a big deal. It means opening up hearts again, and it's best to know that you are TOTALLY in. Otherwise you could open wounds later on.

Make sure they haven't moved on

They have a new gf and you are trying to get back with them? Not going to fly. Try asking them about their life now and see how things are going. It might not be a bad idea for you to find out more about your ex and what they've s been doing since they broke up. This might help you have a better understanding of where they are at.

Try to be friends first

Definitely start talking as friends first, then build and see if they both are interested in getting into a relationship. This will help mend those broken hearts and see if the chemistry is still there;)

If all is a go - Communicate it clearly!

Explain why it didn't work before and why you think it'll work now. If it was your mistake, make sure they know that too! It can be something as simple as:
"hey, *insert name* I'm sorry I broke up with you. I got busy with so much stuff and it was making me stress. I didn't want you to worry nor stress you put as well. I miss you and I want to be with you. Will you take me back?" - advice from: @altiar620al
Or even
"Baby come back. Cuz all I need is you." - ;) advice from: @momattheword
And there you go. It's that easy!
But lastly, remember whatever happens you are still awesome and deserve someone who wants you:)
Thanks to the advice team for helping me on this!!

What else would you do to get back your ex?

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My advice for getting an ex back? Space and time. Have you ever played a video game that was kicking your ass? No matter how hard you try to beat this one boss or stage, you keep loosing. The more you lose, the more you get frustrated. So you drop it and move on to other things. A month or two later, you come back to it, and breeze right through it. That's because it's not stressing you out now, and your head is clear. Sometimes it's the same with an ex. Sometimes you just need to chill for a bit and let the tension of the situation die down. Then go and initiate communication with your ex.
@nicolejb I'm totally agreeing with @Heartofgold35 because if you're constantly trying to retrieve the past, you'll never be able to see what the future holds for you as far as relationships go
no problem here for anything....i got alot of advice lol i got your back
No problem on the advice. If anyone ever needs any advice I'm always only a message away. And I'll always get back to you! Hope things go well to who this was supposed to help.
i got back with an ex and made things better by just taking the 100% blame for it all. guys im talking to you even if it makes you look like the bad guy take full ownership of all the faults it works everytime.
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