I've been thinking a lot about life recently, because frankly I'm constantly thinking. But lately, I've been working on personal letters for 10 lucky Vinglers, for the Typewriter project. And in those letters, I'm finding the things that actually matter, and the things that don't actually matter.
Here are 10 things you don't actually need to give a fuck about.
1. How many friends you have.
When you get older, you realize that it's quality over quantity. If you have a few close friends, it's way better than having a hundred casual acquaintances.
2. What your Facebook page looks like.
Facebook may be a bed of instant-gratification for most, but don't judge your worth based on how many likes your status gets, or how many people share your photo. Put good energy into the universe and you will be rewarded.
3. How many Instagram followers you have.
Same thing here. If you're a shitty person with 1,000 Instagram followers, you're still a shitty person.
4. Skipping your workout.
People make mistakes. But skipping a workout isn't one of them. You don't need to give a fuck about feeling bad for missing one. You will prioritize that when you need to.
5. Trying to impress everyone you meet.
This is a losing battle from the start. You don't have to impress anyone. Honestly, work toward impressing yourself, that's the only way to become happy.
6. Feeling stuck.
This feeling is usually generated from within. Honestly, I've learned, over the past year, that being stuck is a state of mind. It doesn't matter where you are or where you've been.
7. Being a little messy.
Cleanliness isn't the most important thing in the world. Don't feel bad if your world is a little bit chaotic. It'll be alright.
8. Not being as "successful" as your friends.
This thought process is poison. Stop giving a fuck about how you stack up against the people you love. It will do you nothing but harm. Your worth must come from your action.
9. Watching terrible television.
Your taste is your problem. Who cares if you watch The Bachelor and eat ice cream sometimes. Everyone does it. Stop giving a fuck!
10. Being different.
This is the best thing you could possibly be. Not giving a fuck is all about embracing what makes you different, and rolling with it at all cost. You got this!