marshalledgar
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Loving these Viber stickers! I snagged these from online and thought it was appropriate since this card is about turning the first 10 minutes of your date into something AWESOME!
When I say awesome, I am not talking about cool places to go or visit on your date. I am talking about how you are interacting with the person who is next to you. In a recent card, I shared about the cues you can learn in the first 12 minutes that will help shape the direction of your date (and perhaps the next date after), which you can read here.
I discovered a cool resource for dating by Bobbi Palmer, which you can see here. While it's geared toward women in there 40s, you can't dismiss the importance of these timeless truths that will help you on your next date.

1. Go in with the “I hope I like him” attitude.

Don't make it about you, in the "I hope he likes me" sense. Take a step back and think to yourself, Is this someone that I genuinely like? Does he appeal to you?

2. Think of it as practice.

Instead of hanging all your hopes on this date, go into it as an opportunity to hone your own interpersonal skills. It's a chance to work on your problem areas--be more communicative, smile more, etc. This isn't about being perfect, it's about perfecting you more and more.

3. Dump your agenda.

Whatever preconceived notions you had about him, your outing, or the date (from beginning to end), be open to the idea that things don't always go according to plan. Learn to go with the flow and don't allow yourself to be miserable, just because it didn't match up with your expectations.

4. Ask the right questions.

Asking questions isn't a harbinger of doom. You're supposed to inquire about the other person in order to get to know them. Also, the types of questions you ask will reveal a lot about you and the person who answers them. Instead of asking, What do you do for a living, ask, What is the most peculiar thing about your job and then let me guess what you do for a living!

5. Look at them.

This isn't a glance and it's not a stare. It's really, truly looking at the other person and communicating--almost by magic--your thoughts. Eyes are the windows to our souls, so when you look at them, they should be able to pick up on whether you're into them or not.
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One of the best things I learned young and now taught my daughter starting very young to do if she wants to convey genuine interest and focused listening is asking questions. Cuz I'm an introvert I'm a digger for more info by nature but have found that eye contact and asking questions about whatever they are talking about and using their name truly communicates a genuine interest in what the other person has to say and the person in general. Anymore people are not hearing what your saying cuz they are so focused on what they want to say when they get their chance to speak or interrupt. Big Pet Peeve with me. They also say the best way to effectively communicate with a clear understanding of each person's opinion esp in conflict is to listen then repeat back a summarized version of what you just heard them say. That way if you misunderstood they can correct you right away so no one goes away misunderstood or feeling not heard!!!
I like the 1st one, I like the most! I definitely don't like going on "date waste".
Listening is a big one for me!! that helps with coming up with questions. being genuine and caring is the hard part ;)
Thanks for the comments everyone! I think that maybe i should go on practice first dates with Vinglers. That way you all can teach me how to be a better first date, so that when my first date happens, I am PREPARED!
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