We live in a society where we focus more so on a person measuring up to our 'list of qualifications' rather than getting to know them for who they are. Michelle Obama said something about President Obama that will forever stick with me.
She said: "Cute's good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it's, 'Who are you as a person?' Don't look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul."
If you think about it, it makes so much sense. We are so focused on the materialistic aspect of a person when at the end of the day, those things will come and go. If you don't get to know a person on a more deeper level, you will never truly know who you are dealing with. In order to live a life without expectations, you must first rid yourself of the list. I know it sounds hard because you want somebody with good looks, great style, charm, money and the whole cha-bang, but once that's all gone -- what are you left with? Simply a person you never truly got to know. Keep scrolling to see a few steps you can take in the right direction to rid yourself of expectations, hurt and wasting your time.
Identify Any Expectations And Remove Them
Simply put, they are not needed. If you want a plant to grow, you must water it. You can't just 'expect' it to grow without the correct amount of nourishment. The same goes for a relationship. You can't go into one with expectations. Be open minded and embrace change.
Fall For Their Mental Opposed To Their Physical
Looks fade, but personality is forever. If you fall for the guy with the full beard, great cheekbones, amazing teeth and football physique -- don't count on him looking the same way in another twenty plus years. But if you fall for the guy who prays for you, asks you about your goals and dreams and truly gets to know who [insert your name here] is, those are the kind of relationships worth pursuing.
Qualifications Not Expectations
Focus on what matters most. Instead of writing a list of expectations, write a list of the little things this person does that makes you smile. The simple things. The things that money can't buy and refer back every time someone tries to question what you see in them.
If it's worth it [if they are worth it],
you'll rid yourself of the expectations.