nicolejb
2 years ago500+ Views
Q8: Boyfriend does "nice" things that I don't want!
Sometimes even communication can't fix something, you can talk and talk but it might not make a difference in the problem. This one instance might require a bit more creativity in solving, that's why I'm asking the experts!!

Can't wait to hear what you have to come up with!

Q: I don't want to sounds like a jerk when I say this, so let me give you a bit of context. Me and my bf are in college, both paying our way through with jobs on the side. We have limited time together, and limited money for dates. That being said, my bf is extremely sweet. He will buy me steak dinners and cook for me, or get me expensive things (last year he got me a new iPhone!). BUT all these nice things are starting to get me to worry. He already has a hard time with money. I've expressed to him that he doesn't need to buy me stuff OVER and OVER, but he refuses to listen. I'm worried he's putting me first and it's going to come back to bite him at some point. I told him before, so is their an even a better way to express I want him to take care of his own money? Or is there a sneaky way I can give him his money back?
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you should tell him seriously, all jokes and cute ways aside. or tell him about how money used for materialistic matters is not necessary.
2 years ago·Reply
maybe when it comes to him buying you things tell him you guys should go back to that store and return it. if he won't listen. you have to be stern with him if he's not listening to you. you guys both have to focus on school and tell him you don't feel comfortable with him putting you first
2 years ago·Reply
Totally agree with @Bobs and @SeoInHan!! You gotta express that the little things (inexpensive gestures, like handwritten notes, flowers, or just plain ol' quality time) are the things that matter most to you. He needs to respect your wishes. Be frank and honest and that should be all that's necessary!!
2 years ago·Reply
@AlloBaber to be honest, @Bobs and my advice could be read in paragraph form almost as if they were one :D
2 years ago·Reply
@SeoInHan haha it's so true thou
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