nicolejb
3 years ago1,000+ Views
Our online selves are not our true selves. Let's be honest. We often like to portray ourselves to the internet as someone totally different than our real selves. Maybe that person is super cool, or interesting or mysterious.
Or maybe that person likes to only share a few things, versus someone who shares a lot.
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now, and I really love him. He recently got an Instagram, and has been posting a few photos here and there. The only issue is that most of them are pictures with his female coworkers (they are all friends) and selfies. He also keeps his Facebook Relationship status invisible. I openly changed my FB status to in a relationship, and often post pictures of the two of us (on instagram and FB). Is it too much that I want him to post a picture of us? And I want him to have us be Facebook Offical (FBO)? I've already mentioned to him that it makes me feel uncomfortable that he's not open about us online, but he insists that it's not because he doesn't love me, but just because social media doesn't matter to him. Am I overanalyzing this or does it seem like he is hiding something?
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So my honest opinion why does social media need to know you are in a relationship. I have known several people who put everything about their relationship out their on social media and use the status as a tool to let the world how their relationship is doing. it seems lime you are inviting the world to commit on your relationship. but it is not wrong to want him to post pictures of you two together. He should be able to do that for you of he posts pics with his coworkers. I just take it as him not wanting the world to chime on on your relationship. But I too have the in a relationship status on my social media. So of it is important just talk to him again stating why you feel it is important for the in a relationship status. If you don't suspect him of cheating the status thing shouldn't bother you. How he treats you irl is important. Does he introduced you as his girlfriend to other people when out. Does he make you feel special. He doesn't try to act differently when away from you to give the intention he is not in a relationship. If you suspect something is off or going on just ask him. Communication is key to any relationshop but if irl he introduces you as his girlfriend to the people that matter then don't take to much offense he hasn't shared his status on social media He may be protecting yours and his relationship from the drama of the status inquiry from everyone.
no that's not to much to ask. honestly if he likes you that much he would post. but it's probably that he doesn't want someone to know about it so try talking to him
honestly if social media didn't matter to him he wouldn't care about putting it out there. But here's another way to look at it that could be good or bad. It's quite possible he's actually afraid of commitment and he's overcoming it slowly with you. I'm not going to bring my past experiences into this one but if you've asked him to he should be able to just say "yeah, ok." I hope others have better advice than I can give you because I don't want you to worry if it really is nothing.
Ask him if he could change it for you. Because it's something you want. If he complies then great. If he doesn't then there might be some reason why. So try and find that out
over analyzing for sure. if he loves you he loves you. I think social media official does not define how a person actually feels and FBO isn't important. get over it. just because you think it is doesn't mean your partner has to think the way you do. On the other hand I don't see why he can't do that one thing for you
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