sophiamor
2 years ago5,000+ Views
Sound-Off Thursday: When Is Chivalry Too Much?

Men are always told they need to be gentlemen, but does ever get on your nerves?

When Guys Hold the Door

But it could be SO MUCH EASIER if you just went through the door first! GO WITH THE FLOW OF TRAFFIC! Its a sweet gesture but you're slowing me down, man!

When Guys Help Reach High Shelves

Also a very nice gesture but my favorite activity when I worked at the library at my university was climbing up the shelves to get the top books. I felt like a ninja. LET ME DANGEROUSLY SWING FROM THE BOOK SHELVES.

When Guys Try to Pay Every Time

I just...I don't know. I make money, you make money, we both ate a meal...
I'm always down to spilt OR I pay for the next meal or dessert or coffee or something. I can pay my own bills thank you!
I'm not saying I don't love seeing a man treat a lady right (and vice versa) but sometimes I just want people to let me do my thing.

What do you guys think? Is chivalry ever annoying?

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Here's my thing. If I ask you out on a date, I pay. In any other situation we're going dutch. As for being chivalrous about other things, um, I don't. If you don't ask for help getting something on a high shelf, I assume that you can get it on your own. I won't let a door close in anyone's face. If someone is right behind me I'll hold the door, but I'm not going to wait to hold it open either.
2 years ago·Reply
Yo but, like, you can be independent and still let men be sweet to you. Letting someone push your chair in or cover a meal does not make you any less of a woman or an independent person, it just means you're allowing your significant other / male friend to treat you. If y'all are serious about feeling 'frail' or less independent because a male does something nice for you, that problem lies with you, not them. You are in charge of your own self-worth and womanhood. Don't be silly.
2 years ago·Reply
Okay I'm lost I don't know what to do anymore..should I stop holding door and be nice to the ladies wtf I don't get it ..my brain is melting
2 years ago·Reply
@jevonlowery chivalry will die of people like us don't keep it up. we need to show the younger generation this is how you do it
2 years ago·Reply
@sophiamor I've seen that facebook post before and I'm gonna be brutally honest with you on my opinion about it. I would prefer the guy to walk curbside. Why? Because if an accident occurs, he would get hit first leaving me the slight chance to get out of dodge. That may seem mean and selfish, but I enjoy life and hope to live it for a very long time. I can't do that if I'm the first one to get hit.
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