3 years ago1,000+ Views

I'm positive it's not about having sex all the time.

The term 'sex positive' can mean a few different things, and people use it differently when they apply it to their own lives. Which is cool! Everyone's relationship to sex is different so it makes sense that there's no one-size-fits-all definition of sex positivity. But if you've never heard of it before, it can be kind of confusing. Here's a good general definition of sex positivity: The idea that healthy and explicitly consensual sex is a good thing. That's a pretty broad definition, so let's break it down a little further:

Sex positivity does not mean 'having lots of sex'.

Sex positivity is about changing our relationship with sex. For a very long time sexual activity has been stigmatized and coded as bad or wrong. The truth is that sexual feelings and activities aren't abnormal- they're completely healthy and there's nothing wrong with people who enjoy them or engage in them. Just like there's nothing wrong with abstaining! What matters is respecting either choice.

Sex positivity doesn't mean supporting all kinds of sex.

Since an important part of sex positivity is respecting choices, anything that violates someone's consent is NOT sex-positive. That means having sex with minors or anyone else who cannot consent is the opposite of sex positivity. It's rape.

It's not about myths or lies.

There's a lot of negativity associated with sex, and a lot of it comes from misinformation or lies that have been spread about sex and sexuality. There are still some sex ed programs that state that condoms don't prevent pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections (not true!) and there are crisis pregnancy centers lie to patients about their medical status. Sex positivity is about supporting honest and open conversations about sex and sexuality. Without shame or scare-tactics.

Sex positivity is about stopping the shame!

It is both a personal choice (I choose not to make anyone feel ashamed of their relationship with sex), and a political one (I will not support laws that restrict the safe and consensual sexual practices of myself or others). It's about having a healthier relationship with our bodies and ending the harmful myths about sex.

How do you practice sex positivity? ^_^

I'm not very sex positive I don't think, I'm actually kind of sheltered about it, but i think everyone should do what they want as long as it doesn't hurt others! Woo!
@TessStevens I think each to their own IS kind of sex positive...supporting the choices others make without negative impact on others....
I learned a lot about this card, thanks! Choice is definitely a very important thing.
@shannonl5 one of the growing list of reasons I think you're awesome!
@InPlainSight ^_^ thank you! And I agree! However you feel about sex is your call, you know best what you need and what will make you happy :D