Patmanmeow
2 years ago1,000+ Views
Forget it, but don't leave it: The era of being ignored
We have so many ways of expressing how cool we are, how we handle our bullying, how we get through the day by powering up. We have two eras we're currently living in right now as a society: The first is the concept of "being yourself", where you find your inner nature and learn to live with it. The second is the IDGAF concept, where we forget about what others my think that might make us uncomfortable and that by saying "fuck it" you're coming to terms about someone or something going on that is considered a hazard and purposefully not using the required presence. Which eventually leads back to the first concept of being yourself. There's a third era that is less known to the public. It's called "ignore it" You may think it sounds just like the two above, but this one has is more sinful, more psychic, more incompatible. Simply put, the looks, the attitude, the psychological outcome before stepping forward to say the first few words to someone because of the how you perceive them to be and not wanting to deal with the emotional situations spiraling in loops, is a way of not being aware of what the real truth lies within that person. My introversion, my awkwardness, my so-called "coolness" and heavy shyness that keeps my tongue and voice from speaking out and splattering out words I want to correct, is one of the many inconsistencies and fallacies I have bestowed upon many individuals, couples, families, coworkers, and the like. And when asked about my inner nature, I'm like an animal trapped in a well with no way out but yelling in hopes someone will come along to wonder what the hell the noise is coming from. Then I talk about my inner nature after being asked so many times if I'm okay and then saying the two vague words that are the interment voice of boredom and death: I'm fine, and nodding and looking away. Almost as if I'm the one ignoring everyone else. But the question is how long will that person stay and listen to my inner nature, what I'm really going through, and what will their response be? We have people who are homeless, people whom they used to be, but were stripped away and are begging for change, and not the kind you pay for. We have single mothers on welfare and trying to take care of their children while trying to get that one middle class job with benefits, but the employer can see in their eyes that the single mother might have resorted to prostitution and the mother will get rejected and will spend the next couple of months on food stamps and searching for other opportunities. Or maybe war veterans just want to put a shotgun in their mouths because doctors and lawyers do not understand what "real trauma" is after serving in a country that's always on the verge of shooting or blowing them up miles away. Then we have the epidemic of the media and other social websites like Facebook, Vine, Buzzfeed, and Youtube making intimate contracts and masquerading daily unimportant photos, and things we didn't know about in the top ten, or five, or seven lists, and not listening to what the public wants to see, to discover new information. It's all about being ignored. Is it because we ask too many questions? Feeling insecure about ourselves? Being seen as worthless because we did our best to make a first impression? Because we don't have the time? I believe so. Then again, I don't. It's two in the morning, and out all this, maybe I should be like those who ignored me at the time I desperately needed them and not have a flicker of emotion or apology to give because they too have unleashed their inner nature on me and never apologized to me. But here's the difference about me: I never forget it. I'm one of the men who stick around and hold onto it for a while until I'm ready to bring it out again. Yes, you can say that I missed my opportunity to speak out and live a dangerous life, and getting loaded and hopefully all the negative stuff will go away. But that doesn't mean I won't speak out and say what's wrong. I still wish to enlighten those who have held me back, give them a sense of acknowledgement so that they may come back if needed. Art image by Chris Oatley
4 comments
I totally understand this. It's kind of incredible how we just continue to ignore big things. For me, sometimes ignoring things gives me the comfort of a...self defense from reality type of thing.
2 years ago·Reply
I think there is an element of ignoring something that is also a feeling of helplessness. Sometimes it's easier and better for my emotional health to avoid the problems of the world. In my journalism class this is a theory we actually study (totally spaced on what it's called), but people tend to not listening to news because it's all negative. This overexposure of negativity can make it easier for us to only want to seek out positive emotions.
2 years ago·Reply
I get your point on the helplessness @nicolejb I guess I'm just over thinking
2 years ago·Reply
I think you give up a great point though @Patmanmeow. really great point. I wish more people got involved with world issues
2 years ago·Reply
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