alywoah
3 years ago1,000+ Views
Haha! I have had something similar happen to me. I never really noticed gender roles or expectations growing up...until I started dating my first boyfriend. I remember I was at a family barbecue with my family and my boyfriend at the time. When the food was ready, I served my own plate and sat back down.

AND THEN I GOT THE MEANEST LOOK FROM MY ABUELA LIKE SHE WAS GOING TO KILL ME.

Me: What?
Abuela: Serve your man! What are you doing?
Me: He can serve --
Abuela: Make his plate!

OK ABUELA DAMN.

I don't know if I was scarred from the moment, or that I've become succumb to the Latino-traditional ways of relationships, but I now I prepare a plate for whoever I am dating. It's something I don't even think about anymore. I just do it. Sometimes I do ask, "do you want fix your own plate?" If I don't feel like doing it. >:)
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If you're Latino, have you noticed doing things like this?
If you're not Latino, is your culture/family pretty traditional in gender expectations & relationsips?
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@arnelli see this is why I wanna go to your kingdom XD Personally I'd feel weird doing this. How do you know what he wants??? I feel like in the time it takes to figure that out he could have just gotten what he wanted himself. If I'm getting up to the kitchen or something I'll ask if anybody wants anything, but everybody does that.
Omg, this is like my family too. I always thought it was super ridiculous how the women would be in the kitchen until the food was ready, and the men would be sitting in the living room watching tv and talking.
Ehh, both sides of my family are americanized enough (and the older generations are gone too which is where most of the hard core traditions started dying off) to where we don't really have set rules anymore. My aunts are more of,"If my husband is hungry, he can serve himself!" as they shovel food into their mouth lol but I'll serve, both out of respect and because I like to XD And I think that it's only right the guest eats first. so I make sure she is happy and satisfied and has everything first, then I eat afterwards. This get me teased a lot, but it's okay lol It makes her blush XD
I naturally serve without thinking about it. I had a friend once tell me it was sexist and I should let a guy help in the kitchen...but my intentions aren't submissive. I do it to show respect and care and expect the same in return. If I cook for you then you know the love is real hahahha. What I would not tolerate is being ordered to serve food or cook. One of my uncles will not serve himself even if his wife left food cooked for him. He'd rather starve and wait for her to do it. I ain't about that life!
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I have but I serve her too
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