nicolejb
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13 Things I Learned Before Turning 23
Well, another year has passed and I'm another year older. Happy 23 to me:) I've been out of college (almost) a full year now, and I must say I've had one of the most crazy years of my life.

Here are some things I've learned thus far...

1. Experiences are always better than things.

You will never regret spending your money on a trip, a concert, or going to a play.

2. "Comparison is the Thief of Joy"

Yes, it sounds like a weird old-time phrase, but and old boss said this to me and it totally shifted the way I look at everything. I was so focused on how others were better than me, that I forgot how great I was actually doing on my own. The only person I compare myself now to is the person I used to be.

3. You spend a lot of time at work, so try to find a job you love

You really don't want to be spending a lot of time doing something you are miserable doing, or in a place that makes you miserable. Really figure out what's important to you, and find a job that suites that.

4. Know what you can and can't control

You can't control how someone feels about you, you can control how kind you are to them. You can't control what someone says, but you can control how it makes you feel.

5. Life doesn't get easier.

I always thought: "if I get a college degree I'll have my life together." or "if I just can get a job out of college." if, if, if, etc. I'm here to tell you life does not get easier, BUT the way you view it does. So when faced with a crazy adult-life hurdle, I try to think: "ok, this is just another thing I have to deal with." And thus, I become the master of the obstacle instead of it ruling me.

6. Always have a mentor

Find someone that's doing what you want to do in 10 years, and ask them everything. Stay close to them through email, and coffee chats. Mentors build you up and make you better.

7. Alumni are the bomb, use them.

After graduation I found myself having to move to a new place where I didn't know anyone. I was able to connect with a network of alumni in the area that were some of the kindest people I know... one of them even offered to let me sleep on her couch!

8. Never stop learning

So I'm out of college now, that means I stop learning right? Nope, no way. I try my best to learn something new every day, and push myself to know more about the things I love.

9. Making friends as an adult is hard.

I never really had a hard time making friends growing up and all through college. Adult life makes it a little more difficult, however. On the bright side, I'm putting myself out there and trying new things. This makes adulthood friendship easier.

10. Appreciate your family.

My family is all over the world right now, but they still remain my biggest fans. Even when I mess up or have a bad day I can always call them for support. Before I took that for granted, now I realize how much they have done for me.

11. When things really suck, focus on three things: mental, physical, and spiritual health.

Yeah, I had some pretty sucky moments in the past year, but I always realized what made things better if I focused on those three things. When I took a step back to exercise, meditate, or talk to a friend I always felt so much better.

12. Hard work is more important then intelligence.

I was that kid in high school and college that worked so hard to get average grades. I'm not the smartest person, but I work my butt off. And that, my friends, is how you get ahead.

13. Relationships Matter

Genuinely caring and fostering relationships is hard stuff. I'm the type of person that will usually put work or myself first. This year for the first time I'm realizing that putting others first is actually something that makes me more happy. And it's beautiful to see how my relationships with others have made me a better person.
Thank you for the inspiration @danidee @alywoah :)

What's something you learned this past year?

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Happy belated birthday @nicolejb
a year ago·Reply
Thank you @MyAffairWith @AkashBhojraj :) @Arellano1052 EXACTLY! And the best part of having a mentor is that you can learn from their experience without having to go through it. And it's just good to talk to someone outside of your friend circle to give you some perspective!
a year ago·Reply
Belated happy birthday @nicolejb! I hope you had a wonderful day. Sorry it's a bit late.
a year ago·Reply
Aww, I can't believe I missed this! I hope you had a great birthday. I enjoyed your list too. @nicolejb
a year ago·Reply
Thank you ☺️ @Patmanmeow @1FallenAngel
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