Let's start your Saturday RIGHT!
If you don't know her work, you should really check out Audre Lorde. She called herself a “black, lesbian, mother, warrior, poet” and she was an incredible activist and writer. Her work describes her experiences as a lesbian, a dark-skinned black woman, and a cancer survivor, focusing on themes of beauty standards, mortality, and survival. Here are five quotes from her work that will encourage you to embrace your power and love yourself!
The struggle for survival is real.
We live in a culture that wants to obliterate us for being different, for daring to live, and for the audacity to love ourselves. Take care of yourself. Survive, and if you can THRIVE.
There is NOTHING wrong with you.
Feelings change. We learn and we grow and that process is messy and inconsistent and that is OKAY. If you're feeling totally confident one day and completely deflated the next, that is not a failure! These contradictions are a part of you, and you are special and important. You are complex. And that complexity doesn't need to be fixed, because it's not broken.
It's okay to be afraid.
Or confused. Or angry. Those are not acceptable reasons for people to ignore or dismiss you. Your words and your ideas are valuable and if you feel like you need to share them then your need is valid.
"My silences had not protected me. Your silences will not protect you.... What are the words you do not yet have? What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence? We have been socialized to respect fear more than our own need for language."
It's also okay to be strong.
Strength (and emotions like fear and anger) have a purpose. They're not for intimidating or hurting people, they're for getting things done! You know best what you need to do. Your strength is the tool you'll use to make it a reality.
You are a gift.
You know yourself better than anyone else, and you deserve to be respected and heard. Nobody but you makes you. Nobody but you decides who you are.
You are allowed to love yourself. Because you are worthy of love.
"The speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don't miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party, because, as I think Emma Goldman said, "If I can't dance, I don't want to be part of your revolution." And at last you'll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.”