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Agree or Disagree: Love Me At My Worst
I was running through some love quotes recently and spotted the famous quote by Marilyn Monroe talking about what she needs in a partner.
I'm not so sure I agree with this and wanted your opinions!

Here's the quote below:

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle.

But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

I partially agree with this.

I think that yes, the one you love should whole-heartedly support you through the best of times and the worst of times, but should you be subjecting them to "your worst!?"
For example, what if one of your biggest pitfalls is that you're a horrifically jealous person? You know your partner is faithful but just because you have a tendency to be incredibly jealous, you subject them to your fits of yelling and crying and accusing them of things you know aren't true. Shouldn't you be working, out of respect to your partner, on improving those habits instead of just asking them to live with it?
So yes, they should love you always, but you should also be working to improve your worst parts, not just making your partner put up with it. You should be growing together to become the best partners and people you can be!

Am I looking into this too deeply? What do you guys think?

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@Arellano1052 I hear what you're saying, and I think it's for sure unreasonable to expect your partner to handle you. Like, this isn't Scandal and you're not dating Olivia Pope XD I think it's important for people to accept each other's flaws. Nobody's perfect, and expecting your partner to be is really unreasonable. I think that's probably what she meant, handle just isn't the best word for it XD That being said people take stuff like this as an excuse to be abusive or cruel, and that's not ok. It's one thing to make mistakes or go through tough times, and another to exploit or control the people you're with.
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@shannonl5 I wish I was 😍 Kerry Washington is dreamy hahaha I do agree with your interpretation, but as you said in your last sentences, that's exactly how I see the majority of the kids I know using it. The way she meant it could also be assumed by how she acted through her life. Cheating with married men, multiple marriages, bipolar, schizophrenic... From the bit that I know about her, she was a very tortured individual who sought out relationships with "powerful" people to make her feel safe. In the cases where they apparently didn't bow to her, she became paranoid and turned into a recluse that even her last husband, Arthur Miller, described as "selfdestructive". I'm not making fun of her, I'm just pointing out that we aren't in her state of mind, not even close to it. Our fears, at least in the conversations we've had, don't seem to run our lives and ruin our relationships with others. She was very aware of herself, perhaps a bit TOO aware, but again, psychological knowledge wasn't as advanced and as in depth as it is now. Along with a very meager and scarring childhood, she was placed on a pedestal as a goddess, sacred, fantastical woman that men desired and women hated. It's a very sad story indeed. But my point is, she was not in an entirely.... Healthy and beneficial mind. I believe our interpretations may be from that of people who ARE. Take from this what you will lol I hope it makes sense lolol
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I agree. You should try to improve yourself; no matter how perfect or loving the other person is.
a year ago·Reply
you are so right
a year ago·Reply
Myself I agree with this quote from Marilyn Monroe. Why be with someone if you want to change them? We all know going into a relationship is risky. Yes in some cases there have been those who pretend to be something their not, "double life". That's why it is important to get to know one another before one just jumps in and expect it to be some sort of fairytale. Be honest and upfront with EVERYTHING!!! I am a very honest person, I speak what's on my mind. I wouldn't change anything about myself for anyone. I have quite a bit of health problems physically and mentally (we all do). "Love one another for who they are and not for what you can get" 😊💖
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